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| Thu, 12-30-2004 - 8:15am |
1. Get a makeover.
2. Have your hair done. Maybe even a different color.
3. Get a manicure AND a pedicure. Go someplace, if you can afford it, which has
'atmosphere' -- a private room, a big comfy chair, lovely music, and a manicurist who
won't yak your ear off.
4. Stop wearing the perfume you used to wear when you were with him. Better yet, get
rid of it and never wear it again. Yes, I know it was your favorite perfume. Find
another favorite.
5. DO NOT listen to romantic music while driving in your car (or any place else). Try
a news channel, if you can't drive in silence.
6. GET A MASSAGE. GET MORE THAN ONE -- HAVE ONE REGULARLY -- IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT.
7. Get some new, soothing bath/shower gel and use it. (Look for it in a health food
store.)
8. THROW OUT EVERYTHING THAT REMINDS YOU OF HIM. My GF made me do it (although I was
already kinda ready to do it). All the e-mails, letters, presents -- For about a
week after I wish I hadn't (and I still have one picture of him and the first e-mail
he ever sent me), but after that first week I realized it was the best thing I had
done re helping myself get over this A.
9. Rent sad movies (preferably NOT ones where boy and girl live happily ever after)
and cry your eyes out. Crying is wonderful -- it rids the body of toxins. If
we don't cry, we'll get sick. Too bad we live in a society that considers crying
a 'weakness.'
10. Write down 10 things that you want to do FOR YOURSELF within the next year, to improve yourself, and then
start working on the list. (These are NOT New Year's Resolutions!)
11. There is nothing like doing a little volunteer work to see your life in perspective.
12. Go on a retreat. (There's a monastery close to my home, and I go there regularly.
In fact, I'm leaving tomorrow morning and won't be back until Sunday aftn! But
for the past three years, I have done a 7-day, no-talking retreat each year -- and
it's GREAT -- hard for the first couple of days but then, heavenly.)
And don't beat yourself up. Be gentle with yourself. (I have to remember that every time I feel like kicking myself, which is a lot lately, for some reason.)
OH -- get an accupuncture treatment!! No, they don't hurt. Yes, they work wonders on your emotional state also, besides making your body feel great!! No, they're not expensive. My doctor is on vacation until Monday or I'd have been in there this week. :-)

Those were very good suggestions! I used many of the same things when I was getting out and over my affair. I hope that those here that are hurting take the time to do some of them....it really does help!!
Karry
Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige