Sweetness3398-? about MIL

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Registered: 05-30-2003
Sweetness3398-? about MIL
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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:00am
Sweetness,

I remember you posted last week about DH wanting you to talk to your MIL because she was upset about your A. My question is what happened? Did you talk to her? If you did what did you say? How did you handle talking to her?

I am asking because my DH has told his mom all about our problems and my A. He went to a family wedding on Sat without me and then took DD to his mom's on Sunday for a few hours. This morning I am at work and my MIL just called me. My stomach just dropped and instantly I got this sick feeling. I didn't know what she wanted but all it turned out to be is Xmas presents for the kids. I answered her questions and asked about how she has been and how my FIL has been. Then she went on to tell me about some of the things that happened at the wedding on Sat. and then she went on and on about family stuff that she used to tell me all the time because we were very close. She was talking about plans for the holidays, decorating, a craft fair that we go to every year (my MIL, 2 of my SIL and me and DD) and did I know the date yet, etc.

I just thought if you could tell me how your situation is going we could help each other with these in laws. Thanks

DAF

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 12:03pm
Hiya Daf,

How are you doing? Just my 2cents but it sounds like MIL is staying on neutral grounds, or are you sure Hubby told her all? It would not hurt to see what she is thinking, I know the less people involved the better, but moms and MIL usually tend to try and mend pieces.

Hugs

Ladybug

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Registered: 05-30-2003
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 12:17pm
Ladybug,

You can add your 2cents anytime you want, I really appreciate it. Maybe you are right she is staying on neutral ground and right now that is OK with me, I am still going to stay guarded. I have had this uneasy feeling since yesterday morning that I just can't explain and then MIL calling just threw me. Honestly I don't know if H told his mother everything, he says he did, but without coming right out and trying to talk to my MIL I won't know that. She was talking about the holidays and fishing for her invitation to my house and me cooking, like every year.

I will update you if anything else comes up. I am going to tell DH tonight that his mother called me and see what he says.

DAF

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 2:05pm


Thanks Daf, I know you are going thru a difficult time right now, So I just wanted you to know I am here for you. Good Luck with hubby tonite.

Take Care......

Ladybug