T session-interesting but so common sensical

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Registered: 10-17-2010
T session-interesting but so common sensical
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Tue, 12-28-2010 - 8:07pm

Is that a word even? Sensicle?

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Registered: 08-30-2010
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 8:38pm
Sweetie....keep working on you. You create your own happiness....not your H, nor your exAP. So by focusing on you; that's the best and healthiest thing you could possibly do for yourself. 2011 is the year of US! I am dedicating this coming year to putting me and my needs first. I've spent too many years putting others first and caring too much about what others think of me...no more! I hope you keep working towards what you need and that H clues in and gives you what you need!
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 12-28-2010 - 9:03pm

Yah, but keep in mind that "feelings" change.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:41am

Yes Dee, exactly.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:14am
Hi renewal,

You are doing great in working on yourself, the exploring you are doing in discovering all aspects of yourself is wonderful to read. I am hoping with your H joining in your T sessions that you will discover with your H how to be the best together as you can and that both of your needs are being meet in healthy ways:)
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:45am

Thanks Jen.

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Registered: 12-15-2010
Thu, 12-30-2010 - 2:39pm

Renewal, that is actually an incredibly interesting and helpful post, for me. Thank you! You know, last night while I was at work, one of my co-workers (a really nice guy who I think is ultra-cute) IM'd me a little flirty message and I immediately felt this attraction back...I didn't reply, and am NEVER going down that road again...but it did make me think - and your post summed it up too - I DO have a tendency to look everywhere but inside my marriage for intimacy.

It isn't there, but is that because I'm thinking it can't be found there?Am I that bereft of internal acceptance that I need constant validation that I'm attractive to others?

But hey thanks, really - I am so glad you posted that.