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T0: CL-Noregretsever
| Tue, 10-05-2004 - 12:29pm |
Thank you for your post. To answer your question, my divorce will be final in a week. I am very nervous and trying to keep focused on that. This divorce has been very painful and very hard. I am just trying to put ex-OM in the back of my mind for now. I did talk to him about 2 months ago when I started the divorce proceedings. I called him one day and told him that I had moved out. The first thing that he asked me was if my divorce was final yet. When I told him no, he seemed to want to change the subject. I asked him if he would call me after the divorce was final and he said that he was dating right now and that he didn't know. So I really didn't know how to take that remark. If you want to give me any insight, please do so. I am not going to discuss this with him again until the divorce is final because I need to concentrate on that. Please give me your insights into his remarks. Thanks!

My thoughts on xOM's remarks:
He's waiting for you to be divorced before starting anything....
So, when you hear the judge's gavel and your decree order is in hand, give OM a call. HE will no longer be "OM". He'll be a single man you're interested in.
It takes a while for painful divorces to smooth over. I encourage you to look forward, not backward. You can't change yesterday and tomorrow isn't here yet, so keep planning for the future. Painful and hard feelings of a divorce can go away, same as an affair. Y.O.U. are the one who decides if and when the pains go away.
So what's your choice, painful past or hopeful future?
Good luck with the final gyrations of your divorce and please update us once the divorce is final as to what OM answers when you ask him out to discuss the future.....
cl-nre