Talk about triggers....

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Talk about triggers....
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Sat, 03-06-2010 - 12:07pm

I just have to say that the damn KY ad that pops up every time I log onto this message board is a huge trigger for me!! xAP and I had some playful times with KY!!


Most of the times I can see it and just laugh, but yesterday I just wanted to cry. Any way to get it removed??? LOL. I'll be okay. Maybe I need to create some new memories with DH and a different

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Sat, 03-06-2010 - 4:20pm

The way I deal with triggers is to desensitize yourself to them. That's just how our brain works - once you're exposed to the same stimulus over and over again, it loses its meaning to you. (By the way, the same idea is behind NC - once stimulus is removed, brain pushes everything associated with it to the back of your mind.)

There were a couple songs that would remind me of my x - so I'd play them over and over. Cry and cry listening to them. Then they'd get boring and will lose their meaning to me.

With your KY thing - play with it with your husband...erase old memories and build up the new ones. Brighter and better.

XOXO
Gone

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 03-08-2010 - 10:29am

GBG,
I do the same things with songs...I take em head on. they used to have me balliing, and like you said I create new memories to em...singing em in the car with kids etc...it really works..

Luvin

Luvin
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