So it's over? Are you completely resolved that it's over? I am a relative newbie here (29 days NC), but I know a vet will come along and ask if you belong on the endings board. You need to be 100% resolved to end it.
If you are 100% resolved to end it, then not only is it possible to get through this, but it is necessary that you get through this. And you will get a lot of support here if you are committed to ending it.
Yes you can do this... Yes it is possible... We understand your pain and hurt, many of us have been there and done that. BUt you need to firmly end this. You can make the choice to do it today, you do not need to have another 45 minute conversation with here to do so, you can simply tell her or just go NO CONTACT, its not about being rude or mean, it about ending the pain and madness. Its the beginning of the end. If she is in trouble, she had to deal with that, that is the choice she made having an A with you. As for you and your guilt and your pain, very normal. very typical. but only when you end it and go No Contact can you begin to heal and forgive yourself....carrying around a bunch of guilt only hurts us all further....let it go and start to do the right thing for you, for her, for everyone involved. Let her go. Focus on you and we will be here to help you get threw it. But you must end things...however you see fit,
So it's over? Are you completely resolved that it's over? I am a relative newbie here (29 days NC), but I know a vet will come along and ask if you belong on the endings board. You need to be 100% resolved to end it.
If you are 100% resolved to end it, then not only is it possible to get through this, but it is necessary that you get through this. And you will get a lot of support here if you are committed to ending it.
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jimmy
Yes it IS possible.
Yes you can do this...
Yes it is possible...
We understand your pain and hurt, many of us have been there and done that.
BUt you need to firmly end this.
You can make the choice to do it today, you do not need to have another 45 minute conversation with here to do so, you can simply tell her or just go NO CONTACT, its not about being rude or mean, it about ending the pain and madness. Its the beginning of the end.
If she is in trouble, she had to deal with that, that is the choice she made having an A with you.
As for you and your guilt and your pain, very normal. very typical. but only when you end it and go No Contact can you begin to heal and forgive yourself....carrying around a bunch of guilt only hurts us all further....let it go and start to do the right thing for you, for her, for everyone involved. Let her go.
Focus on you and we will be here to help you get threw it. But you must end things...however you see fit,
Here for you,
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
#3!
WHAT NC