Thank you all so much...

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Thank you all so much...
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:59am

For the responses to my other post. Sadly though, I am not as strong as I thought I was. I'm deciding not to walk away right now. I still want to be with him, and as jenn said, I'll have to OWN that decision. Part of that might mean (to me) that I can't keep whining and complaining about how I get treated or how I don't get treated, what I go through and what I don't go through. I need to be realistic and aware that YES this can be a no win situation for me. Right now though, I'm a bit of a romantic fool and feel that we will be together when this is all over.

I love him, and I know he loves me just as much. He is not at home with her, nor did he say that he is going back to her to give it yet another "try". He has his own apartment, so maybe, just maybe, he is actually going to go through it this time....that is something I have chosen to stick around and see...Also they drew up the papers yesterday and the attorney is sending them to court asap. Since they both walked in with a written list of what they each wanted and they had reached an understanding of everything...the attorney said it will be an "amicable" and "quick" process. But like free said, I won't believe it until the ink is dry...

In the meantime, I might someday need your kind (and painfully truthful) advice if I need to come back here.....again.

You have all been incredibly helpful and I am not forgetting your advice for a minute. I just don't want to be without him right now. He has brought happiness to me in a way that no other has, even though at the cost of some painful ones as well. Again, it's my choice and I need to be a "big girl" about it and understand that when it gets tough or if the time comes and I am once again kicked in the stomach....I knew what I was getting into.

Well, this bunny is now banging her drum on the other board....

Can I ask for you all to wish me luck?

Doves

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 11:15am

Best of luck and lots of well wishes to you.

SS

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 12:00pm
Only you know what's right for you. I wish you well in whatever path you need to take to be happy :)
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 12:21pm
And the energizer bunny keeps going and going and going.......
and rides away into the sunset with her cowboy!!! Yee-Haw!!!
Good luck to you and I truly wish you the absolute best in the world.
~nutt
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 12:34pm

You are all so great!! Thanks again for making me feel so good each time that I post. I'm so glad that I know that I have a place to turn to no matter what happens =)

Doves

PS
Nuttmeg...
This...
"And the energizer bunny keeps going and going and going.......
and rides away into the sunset with her cowboy!!! Yee-Haw!!!"
Had me LMAO!!!

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 1:32pm
{{{{{{{{Doves}}}}}}}}} I am so glad that you know about the responsibility of "owning" the decision (Jenn...you rock). I wish you much love..and yes i'll be readin' ya on the other board too ..i read both...why not...i am always learning at the very least =)
Lizzie
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:42pm

It will not be an easy path...but nothing worth having is easy. i think you're doing a good job sweety. This decision isn't wrong...it simply IS. It's nice to have faith in him. But more importantly have faith in yourself. This experience will give you something, and when if at some point it no longer suits your needs and is not something you will want to continue, you will know, just like i did. Destiny, fate....whatever you call it....it all happens for a reason. And maybe you will be one of the lucky ones. In which case i want to be invited to the wedding. Maybe i'll meet someone ROTFLMAO.......

And if you decide to break it off and you just want up us to rile you up again, we WILL :)

hugs,
jen

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:50pm

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She's dead right about that. If you're not serious, it won't stick.

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I don't see why you can't still have an opinion about how you're treated. You're not a doormat, sister!

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Best of luck to you and your fella. I hope for your sake it all works out beautifully, and if it doesn't you know you'll have a gaggle of support hens here waiting on you!

Take care and best wishes, Doves!

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:56pm

Bunny

Best to luck to you hope things work out for you.

Free

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 11:07pm

Doves,

i just want to say that we all care for u and whatever u decide we are all for u, i wish u well

take care of your heart

"Coz every little thing he does is magic
everything he does just turns me on
eventhough my love before is tragic
now i know my love for him goes on"

i cant remember who wrote this song but this is for u Doves, come and visit us sometimes and dont be a stranger

take care,

Max

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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 7:24am

Doves -
Going with H on vacation this week and I will keep the words of your post in mind all the time. No one but me put me in my situation. I was not manipulated nor intentionally lured, and even if there was a void in my marriage, I CHOSE to seek out of marriage rather than to fix it within the marriage right away.
Thanks to everyone here too. I don't think I am ready to leave this board, but am curious what board doves was referring to? Full report when I return on Thursday. I am nervous for 4 days alone but this is my H, we will make it good and make it work. HUGS to all.
SP

btw Max - the lyrics are from the Police.




Edited 4/14/2005 1:32 pm ET ET by spanishtrain

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