Thank you, Clarity

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Thank you, Clarity
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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 9:55pm

I needed to start a new thread to say thank you for your response...I needed to quit hijacking GMLB's post, which was rude of me....actually, the pic he had of his wife with a blackeye was on his cellphone, but that doesn't really matter...I just found it odd that someone would fall and hit their face on a curb because they were drunk and have no other apparent scratches or bruises other than a blackeye and there was one time when we were together that he did get pissed while we were arguing and he pushed me away and made a fist...didn't hit me, but he made a fist...I've asked him more than once if he ever hit her or I've joked around about hitting a woman and he would say.."what, you think I would hit a woman?

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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 11:05pm

No need to thank me, Gabby, but thank you for doing so :)


I felt badly, too, that we ended up hijacking GMLB's thread.


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 8:50pm

Gabby,


It sounds like you had a rough day at work.


It's never easy when you have to change your whole routine.


How about tomorrow you park in a different place just make sure it is different then where he parked today.


On your lunch and breaks, try taking a book that you have been putting off reading. If your phone can go on line, log into EAS here and read affirmations or in the Healing Library. Drive somewhere else and eat in your car. Journal on your phone how you are feeling and safe is as a draft in your text messages. Call your H on your lunch hour and tell him you just wanted to say hi and hear his voice. I could go on and on but you get the idea.


Don't look like you are waiting around for him. Change your routine as much as you can. Like arriving only 15 mins. early was perfect!


Part of successfully ending an A is to replace old behaviors with new ones.


Big hugs Gabby,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 12:50am
Thanks, E1...actually, that is the same parking place I've parked in for years now and I'm not giving it up just for him!!!
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 2:06am

Hi Gabby,


Ok on the parking space and standing your ground! Sounds good to me.


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I’m glad you asked that question. Because A’s are based a lot in fantasy we tend to feel that it is a safe to pour our feelings into it.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 10:53am

Thank you E1 for sharing such wisdom in this post: it helped me get moving today.

j.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 11:44am

Hi Jodi,


I hope it helps Gabby and anyone else who happens to read it. Also Clarity

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.