THANK YOU! I did it!!!!

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Registered: 11-27-2004
THANK YOU! I did it!!!!
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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 10:35am

I posted here back in October I think. I was involved in an A with a MM, and I was in an unhappy marriage to boot.

I got SO MUCH support here! ANYWAY, I am SO happy to say that (1) my affair is OVER and (2) I am separated from my H!!!!!!!!!!! It feels so great to be free and to be me. I feel like I am making up for lost time, and I am truly loving being myself.

I want to share with you the following advice: take a LONG HARD look at the man, men, in your life. That A person really may not be all that s/he is in your image of that person. In my case, my MM was a long time friend, going back over 20 years, but over the years that we had lost touch, he truly became a different person - almost a mean person, with some deep rooted problems that didn't come out until almost 7 months into the A!!! And when I heard that part, I truly realized that I would be better off alone. I mean, here I am, ending a marriage, because it was an abusive marriage and I didn't want to be "made" to feel bad by anyone... and then my A person was going to make me feel bad!?!?!? NOT HAPPENING!

SO, take a long hard look at all the people in your life, and truly delve into whether or not they are what they appear to be.

Now the problem for me is that I feel like I am ready to date again, but I suppose it's too early, plus I have kidz, which is a turn off for some (MANY) men.... but that's a different topic for a different board, to where I shall be moving on....

Again, thank you for the support, and best of luck to each and every one of you,

warmly,
Tappy

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:12pm

Hi Tappy

Congrats on being TRUE TO YOU, I believe that you can make life all you want it to be, DON'T SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST you have worked to hard to get were your at.

GOOD LUCK

Free

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Registered: 12-09-2004
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 7:09pm
Thanks for posting. That made me feel a little better. In the next few weeks i too will be officially separated from my H. We will be living apart & my A is also over. I hope i enjoy being myself & being alone for awhile, too. I've been analyzing (maybe too much) the men that have been involved in my life the past few months. It hasn't been pretty but i need to focus on the negative & move on. Anyway...take care & good luck w/ the dating! not looking fwd to that either.