Thanks a lot..Megs at Peace..j/kidding..

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Thanks a lot..Megs at Peace..j/kidding..
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:05pm


Megs at Peace:

Just kidding about that.....what I am referring to is your post asking our role vs.

ex-partner.

Funny, as I was writing the post on Saturday...I was forced to remember a lot of things...grew fuzzy, sentimental about the xMM. I started to remember the number of times I have hurt him which eventually caused him to "villify" me, to start treating me like a "lying sack of ----," not taking my calls immediately like he used to, blowing off e-mails. I started to remember how I heard him groaning softly (on the phone)/ or get really quiet when I told him of attending functions/engagements with my husband, I was growing sympathetic.....almost felt compelled to contact him all of yesterday (Sunday).

Thank the lord I did not because this morning when I woke up.....started to think about how things turned ugly. I finally reverted to my original thoughts prior to that post...the xOM/MM is a selfish, manipulative creep, thought only about himself. It was all about him! I DESPISED the way how he attempted to control me through lack of communication (sporadic e-mail responses, phone calls) until I could prove to him I was SERIOUS about ending my marriage.

Today, months after the break-up.....I am DAMN GLAD he is out of my life for good...he was (after the first month of the affair) NOTHING but a harbinger of misery!! The demands he was placing on me.....emotionally blackmailing me by withholding affection until he knew for certain I have "filed" for divorce. One day he sent me a complete asinine

e-mail (Dumb and Dumber-like) telling me that throughout the course of the affair he FINALLY learned that "one cannot start another relationship when in the middle of another..." Jesus, it does not require beyond 30 IQ points to figure that one out!! You should have seen how quickly he responded to my e-mail when I asserted my husband and I have consulted attorneys for a divorce...the cell phone was buzzing within five minutes. It was him at the other end, sounding so happy. ASS----.

The affair was a bizarre experience, nothing but a power struggle...destroying

self-esteem(s). A whirlwind of thoughts.....At first, we were just friends.....currently despise him for thrashing our friendship, not treating it with respect.