Therapy anyone?

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Registered: 09-30-2012
Therapy anyone?
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Tue, 10-23-2012 - 8:56pm

Who has sought professional help in getting past your A? What was your experience? I have my first appt tomorrow. I have never been for any type of professional help...I am seeing a LPC. 

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 10-30-2012 - 11:51pm

Yes!  

Do not pass GO...do not collect $200...go directly to therapy :)  hmmmm...wait, there's gotta be a way to work around that do not collect $200.  Okay, you can sent up an appt with a therapist where you have to pass GO anyway to get to the office, pick up the $200 AND THEN go directly to therapy...perfect! :)

You're post made me feel kinda giddy and then silly because you are so positive and excited...after two visits!  Excellent!  I was the same way. With each visit, I came out lighter and freer from all that baggage I was schleping around.  And really, where else can one go where someone has to listen to them with rapted attention for an entire hour. It was all about me!

I'm so happy for you...can you tell?

((hugs))

Clarity 


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Registered: 09-30-2012
Tue, 10-30-2012 - 9:42pm

2nd Therapy session yesterday....I can't say it enough...if you have considered professional therapy and just wasn't sure what to do....RUN do not walk to make an appointment.  It is AMAZING  how much better i feel after 2 sessions! Yesterday was eye-opening about why I ever allowed myself to accept crumbs instead of the whole cake.  I know it will take a while to really "get" it, but it is sooooo worth it!

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Fri, 10-26-2012 - 3:08pm

I'm glad to see you so excited and hopeful about your therapy.  Actually, the minute I made the appointment to see one, I was feeling excited and hopeful...I was being proactive, and that was a boost as well.  Thank you for sharing this.  Too often people are hesitant to seek counseling, and I'm not sure why, but posts like yours show people there is nothing to fear and it is extremely helpful.

You say you floated your thread, yet here it is, for me on my screen, on the second page...UGH.

Clarity

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Fri, 10-26-2012 - 12:40pm

That's the key ISHKB....figure out YOU and why you chose that path. I've been out of my A for just over a year. I didn't see a therapist but I have done a lot of soul searching. I've spent the last year working on me and learning to love me again. You're on the right track....keep on it!!

((Hugs))

~~Noway~~

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.
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Registered: 09-30-2012
Fri, 10-26-2012 - 9:51am

I hope it was ok to float this to the top.  I was one of those nay-sayers ....didn't really believe that professional therapy could/would help.  I have changed my mind after only one session.  My counserlor asked some of the same questions I have asked myself, but it was the WAY he asked them that made me consider so many things in a totally different way than I had been thinking.  I go back for my second session Monday, and I can hardly wait.  I love his approach...He does not want to talk about anything but ME next time, and where my self-esteem and self-respect got side-lined to ever allow me to be in this situation in the first place.  If you are thinking about it.....JUST GO!

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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 8:26pm

Hey! I was having trouble with the new changes here, but think I am figuring it out.  I am gradually getting rid of the ghosts, it is getting easier.  I went to the counselor today and my advice to anyone thinking of going is RUN don't walk there.  Just this first session made me feel so hopeful and so much better!! I am looking forward to his idea that we need to figure out why I ever settled for crumbs to begin with.  This has been true in other areas of my life...professionally, friendships..so it is exciting to think about solving some of the puzzle that is me...lol...

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 1:30pm

Hey there ISHKB,

I was just thinking about you and wondering how you were doing! Glad to see you're still around and are seeking the help of a Therapist. 

Have you done anymore work on getting rid of your "ghost"?!?!

((hugs))

~~Noway~~

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.
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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 12:37pm

I found it very helpful--especially because the very few friends I could talk to were all MY friends--I felt I needed a more objective take. It was very cathartic. I went for five or six months--after that, I felt I could do the rest of the work on my own. I needed to work on figuring out how I had gotten there in the first place. But all along, I felt that I had been a pretty well-adjusted person before my A happened, and that what I really needed was to get that person back (with a little more self-awareness, maybe). I didn't feel as if I would have to go to T forever. Just needed a helping hand.

Very, very worth it. Although I had to finesse some of this to my H (who doesn't know everything). And I'm still on the anti-Ds. I may stop those eventually, but I'm not in a hurry.

Let us know how it goes for you.

--Bird