Alice, I was wondering where ya were. I am happy to see you posting with some insight. Got worried about u there for a second...thank God you are still crackin NC away.
To answer ur question, it doesn't matter. A cheat is a cheat. A liar is a liar. Me and the other exAp's on this board included.
Yes, while some of these men are straight predators. My exAp surely was. I was one of so many...too many for me to count. At the end, I knew more about him n his previous A's than his W did n I thought that made me special. Ha! The joke was on me in so many ways. I wasn't special. I was a big target and I fell hard and fast for a master manipulator. I was his biggest kill. A trophy he set amongst his friends n even members of his fam. So yeah, there are alot of men out there like the guy WWWM described...my exAP told me after the fact that there were plenty of women who knew he was M n did not care. He knew he had to lie to me. I wanted to spit on him that day. A good thing looking back tho...we can not take what these men do personally. We were simply available willing participants, if not us, another women. These men sense insecurities n play upon them so heavily. Not to be taken personally at all. Yet we do. That's why we tell ya to focus on you, not them. There is no understanding them. They have serious character flaws n are in constant need of ego strokes. Constant. They too are insecure. Just manifests differently.
So try to stop obsessing about the type of guys who do this...or that or wherefrom! It really doesn't matter.
Lovin, I am luvin your feisty attitude these days. I bet you're a real hoot in RL because it certainly shines through here. So glad you have had some time lately to pipe in. (((Hugs and muchas gracias, amiga)))
Something that struck me - and I'm like you - I like the analyzing behaviors, choices, etc. - it's not about thinking of the xAP - it's preventing future situations.
Me too Alice! I live to see what makes people tick. No it doesn't matter I guess how it happened. But I did put sine thought into mine. I shopped for mine on a website. I figured I did not want to mix any sort if circles with him and thought at the time that if we met on this website that we were both on the same page. (wrong) that we both knew what we were getting into. (wrong) if it's possible to say without getting booted from the board...My xAp was pretty decent (as APs go) Meaning he was not a player. (don't) However delusional we both were it lasted 4 years. Anyway, the quick conclusion is that no matter where you find it they all end up the same. I do thank myself everyday that I had enough "forethought" to insure that it wasn't a friend or co-worker. I'm heartbroken with it the way it is now. No way I could manage LC. I would be a wreck.
Alice,
I couldn't care less if there is a difference in the APs.
Alice,
I was wondering where ya were. I am happy to see you posting with some insight. Got worried about u there for a second...thank God you are still crackin NC away.
To answer ur question, it doesn't matter. A cheat is a cheat. A liar is a liar. Me and the other exAp's on this board included.
Yes, while some of these men are straight predators. My exAp surely was. I was one of so many...too many for me to count. At the end, I knew more about him n his previous A's than his W did n I thought that made me special. Ha! The joke was on me in so many ways. I wasn't special. I was a big target and I fell hard and fast for a master manipulator. I was his biggest kill. A trophy he set amongst his friends n even members of his fam. So yeah, there are alot of men out there like the guy WWWM described...my exAP told me after the fact that there were plenty of women who knew he was M n did not care. He knew he had to lie to me. I wanted to spit on him that day. A good thing looking back tho...we can not take what these men do personally. We were simply available willing participants, if not us, another women. These men sense insecurities n play upon them so heavily. Not to be taken personally at all. Yet we do. That's why we tell ya to focus on you, not them. There is no understanding them. They have serious character flaws n are in constant need of ego strokes. Constant. They too are insecure. Just manifests differently.
So try to stop obsessing about the type of guys who do this...or that or wherefrom! It really doesn't matter.
Good to see ya back.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Me n you posting the same basic thing at the same basic time...who woulda thought? Surprise, surprise!
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Hey Alice, thanks for posting in.
you wanna laugh and have a lil harmless fun, go read the litany of offenses...again, if you have not already done so. Talk about fun!!
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Lovin, I am luvin your feisty attitude these days. I bet you're a real hoot in RL because it certainly shines through here. So glad you have had some time lately to pipe in. (((Hugs and muchas gracias, amiga)))
Alice,
Something that struck me - and I'm like you - I like the analyzing behaviors, choices, etc. - it's not about thinking of the xAP - it's preventing future situations.