things left unsaid

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Registered: 10-05-2003
things left unsaid
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Thu, 10-15-2009 - 2:17am

So my "boyfriend" of a year and a half just ended it with me on Sunday.


When we began dating, he was separated.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Thu, 10-15-2009 - 8:39am

Good Morning~


Any more contact at this point is just going to prolonge the pain so why do that...?


I think its better to leave it alone.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Thu, 10-15-2009 - 3:05pm

Hi verucasalt (that was a cool band lol)

I agree with Lynn 100%. If you contact him it will only prolong the pain for both of you. Let him go in peace, fix his marriage, move on with his life. You need to move on as well, cut the cord NOW both for your sake and his. Nothing you say to him will make him feel better right now anyway, he has to process this with his wife.

I also had multiple affairs in my life, and I spent 18 months in therapy to gain some understanding of my dysfunctional pattern, and why I subconsciously didn't feel I had the right to my own healthy relationship. Maybe you could benefit as well. There's nothing bad about personal growth.

big hugs,

trixie xo



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Registered: 10-05-2003
Thu, 10-15-2009 - 8:49pm

Lynn and Trixie...


Thanks so much for your unbiased advice.

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 10:58pm
I'm so proud of myself.
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Registered: 04-07-2009
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 2:48pm
That's wonderful.