Things my XMM said to me

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2003
Things my XMM said to me
2
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 2:34pm
In the Stupid category:

1) i think you have "unleashed" something in me (meaning i see now how easy it is to have an A, so will i do it again?)

2) the bonding with my wife (on family vacation) was incredible.

3) i think is a babe (that's why i want to work with her husband so i can be near her/get to know her).

4) i bought my wife very pretty underwear for mother's day. (which she subsequently returned as she likes "comfortable" underwear, he said.

5) i bought my wife a terry robe and thong underwear for Christmas. (do i really care!!!!!)

In the Sweet category:

1) you are like an angel to me

2) i have fallen in love with you

3) i would hold you all the time

4) i would love you if you were 250 lbs.

5) if only i had met you sooner

6) you are everything to me--you've become the most important person in my life

7) will we still be doing this when we are 65?

8) i had to tell someone about you; i couldn't keep it inside anymore. i told my friend, i loved you. there is no way around it.

9) i feel what you feel and you feel what i feel. We are going down the same path.

10) songs: 2 Worlds Colliding, You are My Everything; Satellite (Smashmouth); If you Love Someone, Set Them Free; Listen to Me/Breathe; Man on the Moon.

11) i can't seem to do anything without you. I am a mess, but a smiling mess.

12) i want to make love to you: in the mountains, on a rug in front of a fire and on the beach. We would all be there--and i would send our boys away to go hiking or something--and then i would make love with you right on the shore.

13) i need to get away. Will you go with me? Let's go. I am ready and I am able.

14) i have decided you are good at every thing you do.

15) you must really love me/have faith in our relationship after a "tounge whipping" like that (i yelled at him for an hour about a stupid thing or two he did with the non profit we work with. It was stuff he needed to hear!)

16) I can tell you this because we share everything.

17) i will never leave you and neither of us will ever tell (about our love).

18) "the email you sent that said i love you," he said, "took my breath away."

In the Smart Category

1) why do I need you if i love my wife?

2) Am i getting in the way of you working on your marriage?

3) if anyone ever knew our feelings, it would ruin my life. i would have to move out of town, leave my job, my family, my kids.

I think i am reliving my A today. God only knows why.



Edited 3/26/2004 3:39 pm ET ET by claricews


Edited 3/26/2004 7:37 pm ET ET by claricews

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-29-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:29pm
Boy can I relate!!! The latest thing from my MM is "you know I love you very much, but my love for you is wrong." I've had it with him all the way around. The last man I knew with any integrity was my father. Maybe we should start a new board entitled, "The B.S. men tell to serve their own needs, at the expense of the women who love them." Sorry, can you tell what kind of mood I'm in? Take care, Virgogirl
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 7:06pm
Its interesting...its almost like they go to school to learn just the right things to say.I know deep down we all like to hear the sweet things they say because it makes us feel special in their lives, and almost like the secrecy somehow makes it all seem special too, but oh how much nicer it feels when you dont have to hide anything!I know I could write a book with all the things my MM has said to me, sweet or not, actions speak louder than words....he may say he's never loved anyone as much as he loves me, but I guess Im still not good enough to committ to??

Anyway, thanks for sharing.Wouldnt it be something to write out all of things along with perhaps what their subliminal meanings would be.Like for example:My wife and I dont even sleep together anymore(hidden meaning: because she kicked my a$$ out onto the couch after the 2nd affair Ive had) etc etc.

Emma