For those that ended the A, in what m...

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For those that ended the A, in what m...
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:17am

For those that ended the A, in what mannor did it end?



  • Spouse found out about A before it ended.
  • OM/OW ended it and H/W is unaware of A
  • You ended it and H/W is unaware of A
  • You ended the A and you told spouse about A after the fact
  • You ended the A and spouse found out about it later.
  • OM/OW ended it and H/W found out about the A later.


You will be able to change your vote.


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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 12:17pm
I know there is more than 10 people posting and probably 3 times more lurkers. You don't have to give you name to vote. It's election year after all. ;)
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 12:43pm
Patience, Mr. Blue_eye ;) If you've been following the posts, a lot of these gals aren't allowed access to this site at their jobs. This evening it should pick up. Still in that "Gotta have it now mode?" <<>>>

~True~

 

 

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 12:56pm
Hiya BEB,

I'm afraid I fall under none of the above and since there wasn't an "Other" I've abstained.

I told DH at the start of the affair (emotional affair at that stage), we agreed to an indefinite separation so I moved out on completion of the purchase of my house a couple months later.

My affair lasted nearly 4yrs and produced my almost 2yr old daughter. I ended the affair in January 04 when exOM's partner (whom I believed was an ex-partner lol) discovered the affair and I discovered that exOM's exPartner wasn't quite such an exPartner after all since she had a month earlier given birth to my daughter's younger half-sister...

Although exOM & I had been living together off & on over the last 18mos, exOM wanted to set up home with me at that point. I politely declined.

I had a much discussed major backslide in May 04, after which I have maintained strict No Contact and I consider that to be the true ending of my affair.

Soooo...All parties were long since aware, I simply decided to end the affair since if I did not deserve better, well, my daughter most certainly did.

DH & I have subsequently decided to rebuild and raise DD as a family and are actually *enjoying* doing so!

I vote a very weird "Other."

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:39pm
Guilty as charged wink wink
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:45pm
Posie,

I've read your story before, but missed the part that DH was aware of the affair from the beginning.

I thought I covered all angles, but you've proved me otherwise.

Cheers




Edited 11/4/2004 11:47 am ET ET by blue_eye_babe

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anonymous user
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 7:03pm
LOL No worries, BEB, really!

I've been the square peg in a round hole for so long I'm pretty used to it.

Anyway, there is actually some benefit if some of the newer boardies who don't know my situation can see that despite all odds, hey, I've managed not only to survive but I'm actually rather enjoying that "survival!"

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie


Edited 11/5/2004 1:14 am ET ET by posiepops

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 3:35pm
Thanks Posie
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Registered: 04-26-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 3:36pm
Thanks Posie
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anonymous user
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 4:10pm
My pleasure, BEB :)