For those LC at work ... how do you deal with the jealousy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012
For those LC at work ... how do you deal with the jealousy?
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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 8:00pm

Hi all,

I am writing tonight as part of my resolve to be better this week ... stronger, calmer, more confident and more LC -- seriously, to my core, in all my moments, LC.

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Registered: 01-10-2011

I have been LC at work for just over three years now and I can totally relate to what you are saying.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2009

Good for you SW,

I had to think about your post overnight before I posted, because its actually a difficult question to answer. I am not a jealous person by nature. For example, I trust my H with my life, therefore he is free to go out when he wants and talk to who he wants, without making me jealous - he loves me, and has my best interests at heart - and he would never make me intentionally jealous to get attention or to get his kicks

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009

I have to start out by saying that I am not LC, thank God, and for those of you who are... well, I think you must have to have bones of steel not to break under that horrid circumstance and you have my highest respect for a job well done.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Amazing post Dee.
Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
You worded this beautifully, Dee...SW, you will be truly amazed when you are able to see more clearly the "new you" emerge. She is making headway...you just keep up the great work in this tough LC situation. You have got this. Keep telling yourself this. Like Dee said, <<>> Little by little will pay off and will equal HUGE results!! :)

(((Hearts <3)))
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2011
SW

I still struggle with this and I'm 5 months LC. Can't add much to what the others have said but you just do need to keep going abd reframing and you'll get there. I had a jealousy inducing incident this morning and it's tough. But it served as another reminder of what an arse he is and how he needs other women's attention. Actually it helped to have this reminder - seeing them in action in LC gives a reality check like no other. But it hurts. But then the sting reinforces resolve.

They are no prize SW. It was not a competition to be won - there is nothing of value to be gained by being the one chosen. See every interaction he has as propelling you forward and out of this.

Hugs sweetie - I'm still working on this - my poker face slipped today tho - grrrr!

Much love

Yellow xx

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2011

Dee, is there some way you can take up a special residence in my brain? It gets hard carrying these posts around.

--Bird

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012

Wow ladies, thanks for your words of wisdom.