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As time goes by
| Mon, 01-24-2005 - 6:52pm |
I am new here but have been reading the board for some time. I was in a EMA for over 8 years. It ended 9 months ago. We had a good relationship and we were very close. We are both married. I tried to end it many times but he would just fall apart. He ended it 9 months ago. No reason given to me. How could someone you have loved and supported just walk away after all this time. I thought AS TIME GOES ON I would get over him. I miss him and what we had. I try everyday but he is still in my thoughts and heart. I know he will never tell me why or what happened which also hurts me. I am sure by now he has forgotten me and maybe even has found some OW. I just wish I could forget him. Thanks for reading and any advice would sure help.

NOH
More time, a lot more time and maybe some Individual counceling to help see the whole thing from a different prespective.
There are no short cuts, sorry
Be well
Free
Eight years is a long time and you seem to have a lot of unanswered questions. I think you need to realize that you may never have answers. He has just walked away for whatever reason. I am not great in the advice department as my A ended 9 days ago, but I do know thinkign about what he is thinking doesnt help. Start a new day and do the best you can. Maybe try to see what was missing and made you want to be with MM in the first place. Maybe filling that void can help.
Best wishes
Notoverhim,
The only advice I can give you is to focus on your marriage, and know that as even more time goes by, you will get over it. It wasn't real to begin with. Remember that. It was a relationship based on lies and deceits and betrayals. What kind of a relationship is that?
You'll get over it.