Time for a Roll Call

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Time for a Roll Call
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Mon, 03-21-2011 - 7:03am

The board has been real quiet and I hope that's a good thing. :smileywink: Also, a

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 7:54pm

Hello boardmates! I'm Silver Doe. Read daily, post whenever I can, which isn't often.

I am 19 days NC/LC from my xMM of over 2 years. We work just across from each other, so I am in close quarters with him 9-6, M-F. It is truly H-E-double hockeysticks, as I am not quite out of the fog yet and still have inclinations to break NC (though I haven't). He also fishes daily and manipulates me frequently with contrived sob stories and self-pity-parties. I am maintaining LC as best as I can, though he uses the company messaging system to contact me, and I can't block him. Currently, I'm trying to devise some way to leave my job so I can get away from him.

I have recently begun IC and am very happy with it so far. I struggle with a lot of the same issues as many of you all--chronic depression (10+ years), social anxiety disorder, major self-image/self-esteem issues, and I am trying to find healthy ways to deal with this. Also trying to heal my marriage and/or assess whether we are going to stay together. I haven't had a D-Day (as Dee said, "yet"), but the A has

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 9:57pm

Hi RBMe

So happy to hear that you are ok and NC again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 10:31pm

Hi everyone,

I am

Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 11:53pm
Here...at least until tomorrow. I will be taking a hiatus from EAS to work on RL stuff and my M...but I wanted to post my roll call!
I will write a farewell post tomorrow. :)

Hearts<3
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2009
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 12:30am

Hi Everyone

I'm with Iggy, i love these roll calls. It helps me feel connected to the souls on this board.

I'm still here. I'm still at NC. Although my past history may seem like I would never make it this far.;I am at 5.5 months NC. I still work with my XMM/boss but he is hundreds of miles away. Most of our contact is email and only business. When i have to speak with him, i make sure it is a conference call and other people are in the room. It makes me feel better to have someone else in the room. I am less likely to

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2010
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 6:44am
I'm here too! I'm still tansitioning out of my old job while working full time at the new so I've been really busy. I've been reading just not lots of time to post. I went NC 4 months ago after an almost 2 year A with a MM. I too am M and the A ended with no angry words or blame either way, just mutual understanding that it had to stop. I'm doing much better but still struggle with thoughts of him and romanticizing that which was so unromantic and so devestating to those involved. DDay on his end. I'm still in IC and H just started IC several weeks ago. We have tough decisions to make in the coming months about our M.

Regarding the ending, NC is the only way out and controlling your thought life is the key to moving forward. Still celebrating the freedom I found 4 months ago and standing with the newbies here.

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