Time to suck it up PEOPLE!!

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Time to suck it up PEOPLE!!
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 4:35am

I have noticed this week, that there are a few on us dwelling on our xAP’s, listening to the wrong kinds of music, and some even looking at pictures of xAP just to test the waters. Hey I’m not going to say I’m much better, but its time for a weeking arse kick WGO style! I softly mentioned that I stopped listening to “that song” as it was too painful, in the hope that people would stop torturing themselves, but it seems we continue….

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth

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Registered: 12-17-2011
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 4:44am

Curious to know if this post was in response to my last, "STILL Stuck . . . SIgh :("

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 4:47am

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 7:36am
Very good...very very good. Nice to see ya jump in and handle things when needed. Love it when someone steps up and it's isn't one of us vets. Coming from you, I hope it sticks even more.
Luvin
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 8:02am

I give this a Like.jpg

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 06-22-2011
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:24am
Don't want to rain on everyone's " buck up" parade. I agree that we don't want to get stuck in a downward spiral, but we all know that bad days are part of the journey.

I worry that if we are critical of people for being in a funk, and tell them to just "suck it up" they will just stop posting on the bad days. Then they will be on a much worse course w/o the voices they need to hear to pull them back out.

I agree that there are certain behaviors that should be avoided as they only make things worse. But some days are just $hitty and the effort it takes not to dwell is too great. On those days I give myself 24hrs to lick my wounds and whine and do whatever I need to. Then I can go back to the work of healing.

This is not an easy, linear process. We can keep encouraging people to take the quickest path toward healing while still honoring whatever emotions they are going through on a given day.

Now I'm off MY soapbox. ;)

Lulu
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Registered: 11-26-2009
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:45am

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:56am

to No One in particular-

WTG is posting what _she_ needs to hear, from herself - and also very generously trying to say something that she feels other's need to hear.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 1:16pm
I don't know how I missed this post since I am clearly one of the ones who was "having a pity party" for a few hiurs the other day.

Most of us "suck it up" a lot in our RLs. Many people have NO ONE in RL who knows about our As.

I would way rather have someone come here, admit what they have done and feel safe to do so (which does NOT mean they shouldn't get tough love if needed).

There is a place for "hear me roar" posts *and* one for "I am struggling and need a place to talk about it".
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Registered: 10-14-2011
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 2:28pm

Just wanted to chime in to agree with Lulellis and Rain, and just say that i absolutely loathe the term 'pity party', sorry RBM but I feel it to be so demeaning and against the philosophy underpinning this wonderful board.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Sun, 04-29-2012 - 10:51am
I was not offended at all. I did have a bit of a pity party that day and I came and posted about it.
My concern was more about newer enders possibly being afraid to post if they felt they might (only) be told to suck it up.

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