Time to switch boards...

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Time to switch boards...
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Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:49am

hey everyone--
No, don't worry, I'm not going back to XMM (more about him in a second). I have some not so good news to tell you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer this week, and I found a board that deals with that topic, which needs to be my focus for awhile. All of a sudden getting over my A is a problem that seems pretty small. Of course this isn't a resolution method that I would wish on anyone :-)

I am feeling remarkably OK about this. I can't change the diagnosis, so there's no sense in becoming depressed. I spent the afternoon today on the phone with many physicians trying to pull strings to get my treatment fast-tracked. The only thing that gets me teary-eyed is thinking about telling my kids, which we plan to do in the next day or two. I have a bunch of resources to help with that.

Anyway, I wanted to send a parting note to you all--I want to wish each of you the best of luck in recovering from your affairs. It's not an easy process, but people have done it and you can do it too. This board is so helpful! I will lurk when I can, but I need to swich boards and concentrate on getting better.

As for my XMM, I have to admit to you guys that he is one of the few people I told when I was going through the process of getting diagnosed. As you may recall, he and I have a working relationship so are in contact pretty regularly. I think he is taking my diagnosis harder than I am. He is pretty freaked out. But now he knows the reality that I have something much more important to focus on than him, and I feel better knowing that he is there to support me without thinking that he still has a shot at getting me to start things up again. He totally understands where my efforts need to be focused.

I'll follow this thread for a couple more days. Thank you to all of you for the support you gave me while I was going through a very difficult time.

Meg

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 1:57am

Meg,
My thoughts and prayers are with you for a speedy recovery. I have gone through a cancer scare myself (cervical) and I understand the need to focus on getting better. You have an excellent attitude and that will take you far in your recovery. I'm glad that XMM's response to you was one of concern, you don't need to be dragged down at this time. Thank you SO much for all the support you have given to me and others. When you are all better and feeling up to it maybe you can come back and help others who are facing this EF struggle.

Hugs and kisses to you.
CG

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Registered: 08-08-2003
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 4:31am

Dear meg,

sorry to read this, and all my best wishes to you for a fast recovery. The way you take this stright-on and started right away to deal with and fight this cancer makes me see again how strong you are...

I know where you are right now, I've had cancer of the lymphatic system 21 years ago, and the scare of cervical cancer right afterwards. And if it does a lot of bad things to you -- one thing's for sure: It puts your perception of what is important and what is not in perspective once and for all.

YOU are the most important person in your life now. You are of course worried about your kids, but try not to paint worst-case-scenarios before they actually occur - you need your energies for something else right now.

And don't worry a f*** (need to borrow from mefree now, don't do this often! ;-) about how your ExA takes your diagnosis - he should never have shown you in the first place how hard this may be for him. What you should surround yourself with, what you need now, are selfless people who can be strong and positively-minded for your sake. If the man is able to give you some selfless support - fine. But if you get the smallest inkling that he might bank on your possible weakness now (and one DOES get afraid, weak in the knees with this kind of illness sometimes), push him far away, promise me that.

Thanks for letting us know. I hope you do come back here in time, just to tell us how you are doing. And - the giving of support was mutual, Meg.

ALL the best.
M. xx

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 4:54am

Meg, Just want to say, I know you will come thru this thing just fine and the folks closest to you will rally around you with strong love and support. Please, whenever you can, drop a note to let us know how you are doing. We'll all be thinking of you each and every day.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.
TCOM

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 7:27am

(((((MEG))))

You will be in my prayers. Your words and wisdom have benefited many on this board and I've always enjoyed reading your posts. You are a very strong lady and I know you will get through this with flying colors.

God Speed,

~True~

 

 

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 8:57am


Hello Meg

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Wishing you lots of luck in your recovery, Let us know how you are doing when you get an oppurtunity.

Take Care...
Hugs
Ladybug

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 9:04am

Meg

I choose to believe that you will beat this, you will be in my prays daily tell we get the good news.

Free

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 10:41am
P.S. Yes, so far XMM's support has been very selfless--it's kind of humorous in a way--he talks to me with no joking around like we always have. He and I used to include a lot of sexual discussions and silly talk in our conversations. Now he is sticking to my issues and his concerns about what I am going to do, how my kids will take this and how my H is doing. He is concerned and even scared, I think. It's comforting to me that his true colors are this way, because I understand that sometimes people can't deal with their friends having a horrible disease and they take the avoidance approach. He is acting more like a friend than an XMM.
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Registered: 08-01-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 5:06pm

Meg, I've never spoken with you, but I have read your posts. I just wanted to offer my prayers and best wishes to you and yours.


*hugs*


Someday

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 9:29pm

Meg

You are in my prayers. I am new to this board, but each time I sign on, I find something that gives me hope and inspiration. My mom went through chemo last year, stage 4 colon cancer, she is doing very well. There are so many survivors, hang on to those stories, draw from their strength.

Much Love

Hope

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2004
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 11:12am

Meg,

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have been an inspiration to me and others on this board. Your support and advice has been priceless. Thank you so much.

Diva

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