Time to switch boards...

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Time to switch boards...
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Thu, 11-25-2004 - 12:49am

hey everyone--
No, don't worry, I'm not going back to XMM (more about him in a second). I have some not so good news to tell you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer this week, and I found a board that deals with that topic, which needs to be my focus for awhile. All of a sudden getting over my A is a problem that seems pretty small. Of course this isn't a resolution method that I would wish on anyone :-)

I am feeling remarkably OK about this. I can't change the diagnosis, so there's no sense in becoming depressed. I spent the afternoon today on the phone with many physicians trying to pull strings to get my treatment fast-tracked. The only thing that gets me teary-eyed is thinking about telling my kids, which we plan to do in the next day or two. I have a bunch of resources to help with that.

Anyway, I wanted to send a parting note to you all--I want to wish each of you the best of luck in recovering from your affairs. It's not an easy process, but people have done it and you can do it too. This board is so helpful! I will lurk when I can, but I need to swich boards and concentrate on getting better.

As for my XMM, I have to admit to you guys that he is one of the few people I told when I was going through the process of getting diagnosed. As you may recall, he and I have a working relationship so are in contact pretty regularly. I think he is taking my diagnosis harder than I am. He is pretty freaked out. But now he knows the reality that I have something much more important to focus on than him, and I feel better knowing that he is there to support me without thinking that he still has a shot at getting me to start things up again. He totally understands where my efforts need to be focused.

I'll follow this thread for a couple more days. Thank you to all of you for the support you gave me while I was going through a very difficult time.

Meg

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 11-27-2004 - 11:38pm

Thanks again to all of you--I feel humbled to hear that I have been any sort of inspiration. Until my diagnosis I still felt like I had a ways to go in my recovery from my A, but now it seems immaterial. Fortunately I have a positive attitude and I know I will do well with my treatment. We told the kids last night and it was amazing how well they did. But enough about my new issue--that story is best kept for my new board :-)

Please remember that each of you is a special woman who has the ability to love herself unconditionally. You do not need another human being to justify your self-worth. Please spend some time in the next few weeks hanging out by yourself--get to know what it's like to hang out with that great woman that is within you--take the time to remember that she is a pretty cool person to be with :-)

Meg

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