tired of seeing a married man
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| Wed, 04-20-2005 - 1:37pm |
This time last year, I was hurt because my relationship with a (single) man I loved had ended. He didn't want me and cut me out of his life.
A year ago, I met a married man who was having marriage problems. I'm 35 yrs old & he's 50 yrs old. He's been married close to 30 yrs. He said even though they're living together the marriage was over. He was sure that they would break-up in the near furture.
There was a strong attraction between us and we became intimate friends fast.
I wasn't ready for a serious relationship with anyone, (I was not over my ex. So, I accepted the fact he was married. We spoke on the phone everyday and had sex twice a month. He asked me not to see or sleep with anyone else.
A year has past and I have accepted the fact that my ex is not coming back. I'm at peace and I have a new outlook on life. I have dreams and goals for my life. One dream is to remarry one day. I want someone special in my life.
My affair with the married man is still a secret. He sneaks away from home twice a month for a few hours to have sex with me. He's still with his wife and continues to tell me the marriage is over and legal papers will be filed any day now.
Today, I told him that I can't continue to see a married man. I don't feel good about it anymore. If he loves his wife he should respect her and make the relationship work. I wish him well. But, I'm ready to meet/date single men. I told him the time has come to end our affair.
He wants to meet me face to face to talk and he mentioned the need to make love to me. He wants to explain things to me. Like things are not good at home, the marriage is over, papers are to be filed soon. If only I could be patient and give him time. Yada, yada, yada.
I'm not going to put my life on hold waiting for him. He may or may not get divorced. Am I suppose to wait and see?
He was hosptilized a month ago, I felt horrible because I couldn't visit. His wife is not religious but I saw her at my church praying for him while he was in the hosptial. She had a beautiful ring on her wedding finger. I felt like a complete a$$. Is this guy playing games, like want his cake and eat it to?

H36
>""He's still with his wife and continues to tell me the marriage is over and legal papers will be filed any day now."<<<
A standard LIE of many cheating married men, you know he will never leave his wife, he has made it clear that he wants you for SEX thats way he wants that face to face.
USED AND MANIPULATED would be the words to discribe what he is doing to you and wants to continue doing, it is unlikely your his first OW.
You have told him what you wanted no INFORCE TOTAL NO CONTACT and get on with your life and force the LIEING old fart to do the same.
Free
But she's right. Run, as fast and as far as you can from this man. If you have the ability to be single, and meet other single men, then do so. Do not wait one more second for someone who is very much still married. Even if he were to leave her next month, what does that mean for you? Do you want to beam about a relationship that started out as sex two times a month with a married man? Of course not. You want to beam about another man you meet on honest and good terms. You want to meet someone you don't have to ever share. You deserve it! Do not give him one more chance at using you.