Today I just can't stand him

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Today I just can't stand him
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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:39pm

It seems I'm still caught in a flurry of feelings for my XAP.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:51pm
Ugh, I work with mine too and also can't stand him. He talks to a female colleague of mine because he knows it used to bother me. He loudly plays music he knows I can't stand. He laughs loudly so I know he's doing just fine. He's a pathetic little child throwing a passive-aggressive temper tantrum. Luckily so far today I've managed to avoid any contact whatsoever, including the dreaded eye contact.
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 2:31pm

To both of you,

I know just how annoying the Xmm can be. Almost 6 years of it now, come May, and days like today are a Godsend because the heavens are dumping 8 inches of snow as I write. I was able to stay home, extend my weekend, and not have to put up with pouty puss. He's depressed about something and "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn." ;-)

One thing they will keep trying to do is getting your attention and you can foil this by yawning, burying yourself in stacks of paperwork, picking up a phone and pretending Brad Pit is on the other end , and NEVER look in their direction because you can bet that is the one time they will be looking back.

You know, it's actually good not to stand him right now. This is going to carry you much further than you realize. I would hold my head up high, laugh with the other coworkers, take a drive on lunch hour, leave work early when I could, and call a friend or my daughter on my cell the minute I was walking out the door. and I'd be blabbing away on my cell phone even if there was no one there. ;-)

He was never going to see that he broke me because I had enough faith in myself to know that I would mend again someday.

Love and hugs,

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-04-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 3:03pm

I loved what you wrote, Iddy. Thanks for writing that down.

hugs
HTGO

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 3:41pm
Hi iddy
Are you saying after 6 yrs. it is still hard to work with this person.......God I don't know if I am strong enough to last that long. Is he still trying for u after this long?
loveless
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 4:05pm

Loveless,

I didn't say that at all. Go back and read my post again. I've been over this man for 4 years now. It doesn't mean he still can't be annoying at times. ;-)

I was simply stating the techniques I used back in the day. Try them. You might enjoy the empowerment it provides. That and all the other excellent tips in the "How to maintain LC at the workplace" thread in the HL.

((Hugs))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~