To:Fullof love

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Registered: 10-02-2003
To:Fullof love
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 5:43pm
I will try to answer your questions. I understand how you feel. I have always said that I would stay until the kids were grown. I have an 18, 19 and 20 year old. They all still live at home. Two are in college and one is a senior in high school. They are all boys. They know that their dad and I don't get along, but they have always worshipped the ground that their dad walks on because he has always spent loads of time with them. I felt that as their mother that I needed to stay and finish helping their dad raise them. I don't necessarily agree with staying until they are grown in every case. It just depends on the family. My husband and I don't fight, we just don't talk, so I knew that I could stick it out. Besides, four years ago my OM was still married, so I didn't even think about leaving until he got a divorce. It has been hell for me ever since because I have wanted to be with him. My kids nor my husband know anything about my OM. My kids know that the break up of our marriage is coming. It won't be a big shock to them. My OM is the one that cut off contact with me except for business reasons. I have still had to work with him the last 4 years and that has made it hard not to get too personal. I love him very, very much and it is hard every time that I have to see him. I don't know what either of our futures hold. If it is left up to me, I will be with him. But I have to wait and see what he wants. I understnad all of your MM's reasons for staying in his marriage, but that doesn't really make it right. I understand your side too. I hope things work out for you.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 9:41pm

"They know that their dad and I don't get along, but they have always worshipped the ground that their dad walks on because he has always spent loads of time with them. I felt that as their mother that I needed to stay and finish helping their dad raise them. I don't necessarily agree with staying until they are grown in every case. It just depends on the family. My husband and I don't fight, we just don't talk, so I knew that I could stick it out."


- This is how it seems to be in his home.

Love
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Registered: 08-19-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 10:00pm
where is the ORIGINAL post you are answering? I can't find anything by "Love" elsewhere!?
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:17pm

Here is the reply to Southerngirl's post that I was referring to.

Love