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| Sun, 02-13-2005 - 5:12pm |
Hello everyone.
I haven't really been here much lately, mainly because I feel like when I'm here, I'm rehashing this whole thing over and over again, and the truth is I'm pretty much over it now. (Never thought I'd say that). I mean sure, I think about him often, and still wonder once in a while where we would be if I contacted him, but I've definately accepted that it's over and no longer in any kind of pain over it. So now I've been lurking a different board. I've started running again, (used to be a runner for years) and now I've found an Ivillage board for runners. So my OT question is this.... How do I get a different screen name than the one I've used on these boards? I really don't want this name on that board just incase there are any lurkers here from over there if you know what I mean. I don't know how to go about getting one name for that board, and keeping this name for this board. Can anyone help me here? Oh, and I just wanted to say that I miss you all and I'll check in every once in while to say hi. You've all helped me so much!!
Thank you,
Pal

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pal,
im new to this board , u need to get a new name, re-register again under a new name and new email address for the registration, then now u have 2 new login names, one for the running board and one for old time sake just in case u want to chime in from time to time
im glad u got over your affair
max
Max,
I've read some of what you've been going through, and trust me, I've been there. My A has been technically over since the day before Thanksgiving, the day he was supposedly leaving his W and coming to be with me. He never made it. Since then, we've had NC off and on (always on by him initiating it)but I realized that I want a REAL relationship with him, or NO relationship with him. So I ended it once and for all just over a month ago. I think getting over the A is more of a mindset. You have to just decide to do it and not look back. If you're not good enough for her to be with you exclusively and you continue this way, you are just letting her degrade you. I was tired of it. I think if you stick around here and take all the fine advice given on this board, you too, will get over this. It won't be easy. Ask Free and Posie and more, I was a wreck when he decided to stay with his W that frightful day. He was all packed and called to tell me he was on his way. (His W was my good friend. Yes, I'm a sicko!!) I thought I would never make it through this. But I did and I'm no worse off without him. I'm still living my life, just as I did before he was in it. It just takes time to remember how to do that again. Break those habits that were made while you were in the A. (The phone calls, visits, e-mails etc...) and make new ones. Eventually you will wonder how you ever had time to be in the A to begin with. I wish you luck and hope you feel better soon. NC is definately for the best. It may not feel like it, but soon enough you will be glad she hasn't accepted any contact you've tried to make with her. And just think, she may not be getting in contact with you because she needs to heal from this too!! It will pass Max. You will feel like living again in time!!
My best to you,
Pal
Pal
Can you post a link to the running board, I am a runner myself but a lonely one.
Free
Free,
I would love to. Just tell me how!!! Sorry, I'm a little computer illiterate and I usually just trip upon these things on accident. I know it's called "The Running Woman" and I think it's under the diet and fitness portion. Let me know how to get you the link and I'll be glad to pop it in here for you. Then maybe we can have something else to talk about besides my stupid A!!! Too bad you don't live around here. I could use someone to run with.
Pal
Pal
Just go to the site and copy the link the same way you would any text from a post like the one below.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/compose.asp?webtag=iv-rlending&rptid=15479&rptsn=5
There is only one other runner in my area that puts in the miles that I do so I here you about having someone to run with (and he is male so running with him is out of the question what with my history).
Thanks
Free
Free,
<<<(and he is male so running with him is out of the question what with my history).>>>
You are so funny!! I guess it's probably not a good idea! I would love a running partner but none of my friends or family like to run. I'll be doing a 5k this summer with my sister's boyfriend but that is all he wants to do. I could do that now and have plenty of miles left in me. Would love to do a 1/2 marathon sometime this year. Just sucks doing it by myself. I'm mostly stuck to treadmill running, being that I'm a single mom and can't just go out whenever I want. They could follow on thier bikes but they are 5 and 7 and just slow me down!! Anyway, I'll get that link for ya. (Though, I've read months and months of posts in the past few days and there hasn't been anything since!! SLOW BOARD!!) I'll get back to ya!!
Pal
Pal
I know how it is to be stuck on the tread mill, here in the north east we have winter 7 months out of the year so I do the treadmill then and road work in the summer, I do about 9.5 miles.
There is a local 10 miler that I would love to do this summer if I can get enough training time in before it.
Free
hey FREE and Pal,
i do run also, about 10 miles but the trail i used to run , in the last 3 months there were sightings on mountail lions, i have not run for about 6 months, not even on my treadmill
i do a 12 minute mile, just for fun
max
Hi again Free,
Ok, I think I got your link posted. Not sure why it's not highlighted when I do it, probably cuz I'm doing it wrong, but here it is, none the less.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-fbrunning?ice=iv|df|cm,running
So you're training for a 10 miler? If you're already running 9.5 I don't see why you shouldn't be able to do it. I used to be able to run like that in high school, but it's been a long time. I'm only back up to 5 miles right now, and I'm quite slow at it. I did 5 miles yesterday in 58 minutes. EEK!! I'll get there though!
Where in the N.E. are you? I live in Northern Michigan. Are you more North and more East than that?
maybe I'll see you on the other board. It's slow over there, but I'm afraid we'll start bugging people if we keep talking about running on an affair board. Feels so good to need support with something healthy though, doesn't it?
Pal
Wow Max! 10 miles is impressive. I can't wait til I can run 10 miles again. It's been a long time! I hope to do a 1/2 marathon sometime this year. I know if I keep at it I'll be able to do it! I say keep on running! Gives us something else to focus on than the dreaded affair! I' would like to see you on that board too, but it's called "The running woman." Don't know them well enough over there to know if a man would be welcome. Maybe we could get enough people from here and start our own thing. Who knows.... Take care Max!
Pal
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