It sounds like you are finally not running down that same rabbit hole :) I'm proud of you for opening the lines of communication with your H. That is exactly what you should be doing - as well as working on you. Keep it up!
So glad you shared this "good news" with us. There is life after an affair after all!
When I read your raging hormone comment it took me back to the totally chaotic days during my own affair. I was going through the worst of menopause. Not only did my husband suffer through my rages, but xAP did as well. Of course xAP never understood why he would wake up to an angry, nail spitting email from me! Or other side effects from my up and down moods. I would spew venom and then realize how awful I was! Hard enough in your own home, but immensely difficult in the throes of an affair. So glad to say I made it out!
<<...xAP never understood why he would wake up to an angry, nail spitting email from me! Or other side effects from my up and down moods. I would spew venom and then realize how awful I was! Hard enough in your own home, but immensely difficult in the throes of an affair.>>
THIS IS ME! You guys are wonderful in the things you share and the way you uplift people you don't know and probably will never meet. Already hormonal, having to hide the A made me a mess. Moody and silent with H and kids, irrational and demanding with XAP. Finally decided that I just couldn't take living a double life.
Relationship with H is much better now, even tho he has no idea about the A. Just like you, I learned to ask for what I wanted. All this helps whenever I am tempted to break NC (2 weeks today!)
Alice -
It sounds like you are finally not running down that same rabbit hole :) I'm proud of you for opening the lines of communication with your H. That is exactly what you should be doing - as well as working on you. Keep it up!
Bodhi
So glad you shared this "good news" with us. There is life after an affair after all!
When I read your raging hormone comment it took me back to the totally chaotic days during my own affair. I was going through the worst of menopause. Not only did my husband suffer through my rages, but xAP did as well. Of course xAP never understood why he would wake up to an angry, nail spitting email from me! Or other side effects from my up and down moods. I would spew venom and then realize how awful I was! Hard enough in your own home, but immensely difficult in the throes of an affair. So glad to say I made it out!
Oh. My. God.
<<...xAP never understood why he would wake up to an angry, nail spitting email from me! Or other side effects from my up and down moods. I would spew venom and then realize how awful I was! Hard enough in your own home, but immensely difficult in the throes of an affair.>>
THIS IS ME! You guys are wonderful in the things you share and the way you uplift people you don't know and probably will never meet. Already hormonal, having to hide the A made me a mess. Moody and silent with H and kids, irrational and demanding with XAP. Finally decided that I just couldn't take living a double life.
Relationship with H is much better now, even tho he has no idea about the A. Just like you, I learned to ask for what I wanted. All this helps whenever I am tempted to break NC (2 weeks today!)
Ok