totally ignored by AP and dumped

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Registered: 05-29-2010
totally ignored by AP and dumped
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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 10:06am

Edited 7/13/2010 10:10 am ET by lucyford99




Edited 7/13/2010 10:29 am ET by lucyford99

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 10:17pm

Reading your post made my heart hurt because I am exactly where you are. I felt unsupported here also because I felt like people didn't take my commitment to ending my A seriously. I know the responses seem harsh and maybe some of them are but they are all good intentioned- or at least I like to believe that they are. Everyone here seems to know what we are going through and they are only trying to reduce our pain by showing us what we maybe unable to see ourselves.

I, too hope that my XAP will contact me. Well, not really but a little bit. I guess I just want to know that I'm on his mind- but the reality is that it doesn't matter if I am or if I'm not because at the end of the day- their wives are the ones in their hearts.

Deleting his texts, phone number and removing him from facebook is a HUGE step and I admire you for it. I've only gotten so far as to delete his texts and HIDE him on facebook.

You will get through this. You have to learn to value yourself more and realize that you are settling for someone who considers you an option rather than a priority. You deserve someone that is fully committed to you and ONLY you and can provide for you not just physically but emotionally as well. Someone that can up and leave and not look back isn't worth your time. It sounds so simple and I know that it's not. Every second of every day is a struggle for me and these are the things that I have to remind myself when I feel like picking up the phone just to hear his voice.

You are not alone. Please remember that. And please remember that you are stronger than you think and you can and WILL get through this.

All the best,
LTL

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 1:52am
Lucy, I had read your story at MAS. If the W did indeed find text or other stuff, I can guarantee that AP will shove you under the buss to protect his marriage. They always do.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 12:10am

Lstwk, u are absolutely right, he will likely throw u under the bus.

Luvin

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