Tough night ahead-positive mojo needed
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Tough night ahead-positive mojo needed
| Wed, 04-07-2010 - 5:43pm |
I have a birthday party to attend Saturday night.
| Wed, 04-07-2010 - 5:43pm |
I have a birthday party to attend Saturday night.
CSN- You can do this! I know you can. You need to go back and read my thread calling for an army and use all those tactics to get through it. You know you don't want to go back to the A. You know what it did to you and how far you've come. You've held me up for the past 2 months, so I know you have it in you. It will be hard, but you need to have a game plan. You need to go in with the goal of not looking affected... and you will accomplish that goal.
REad my strategies for tomorrow blog: http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/2010/03/30/strategies-for-tomorrow/
These strategies got me through the moment with strength. I dealt with a lot of emotions after I saw him, but I wanted to get through it in front of him.
Much love to you CSN.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
I was thinking about how I’m a visual person and how the visual of the situation might help with the acceptance of the situation.
Many people when morning a death need the funeral and visual of the person in a casket to accept the person is really gone. (Sorry to use a morbid example to make my point.)
You being there with your H and him with his wife might give you a visual to accept that the A is truly over and confirm in a visual sense your H is who you choose to be in a commit relationship with
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
CSN -
Oh dear. I feel your anxiety and your pain. It's palpable in your post. I wish I had some "magical" advice that would help you through the evening. All I can say is the same thing I told you when you had to go to happy hour - stay on the other side of the room, don't engage in any conversations with xAP, and try to focus on your DH and the person whose birthday you're there to celebrate. I like E1's advice to visualize the finality of it all, and that this shows that you are with your DH and he is with his W.
Plus, the thing that has gotten me through my tough moments is to remember that IT WILL PASS. The evening will go by, time will NOT stand still and before you know it, you'll be headed home with your DH and you won't have to deal with xAP, at least for a while.
I'll be sending you positive thoughts and I'll even say a prayer too. You can do this. You have all of our support and good vibes to help you through it.
Best,
Gal
Jane, thanks so much for responding.
CSN-
You are welcome. I know that you can do this... If I can, you can. You will walk in there with your head held high, with your DH by your side, and an army of EAS sisters in your back pocket. Make sure you look and feel your best that day. Spend extra time leading up to that night doting on your DH so that he feels his best too. Make no mistake, it will be hard. But the one thing that worked the best for me during my shoot with xap was NOT looking at him. I found I was able to push the thoughts and feelings out by focusing my attention on something else... so focus your attention on your DH and other friends. You know he is a non-issue, so don't let him be one :)
YOU CAN DO THIS, YOU CAN DO THIS, YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU ARE FREE, YOU ARE FREE, YOU ARE FREE. YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE STRONG... AND YOU ENDED IT FOR YOU!
Love you CSN.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
E1
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This is really good.
Hey Gal,
You helped me through the last tough situation and here you are helping me through this one.