The Toxic "Drama Triangle"

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The Toxic "Drama Triangle"
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Wed, 11-10-2010 - 10:18pm

Hi everyone!

I was at T today and we disucessed my seeing the W and all the horrid things I felt etc.

She reminded me that affairs are one of the several kinds of

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Wed, 11-10-2010 - 10:39pm

This is Good Melinda!

I read on and hopped around the link - and found this EMPOWERMENT Dynamic Interesting too!

I found myself to most often take the role of Victim & Rescuer. However, with the below more solution oriented EMPOWERMENT TA

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Wed, 11-10-2010 - 11:07pm

Hi Newlife!

looks like the toxic triangle players/people can become healthier!.....still reading...

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 8:32am

Hi Melinda :smileyhappy:

The one thing that destroyed the foundation of my A was therapy and self discovery.

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 12:17pm

Victory,

You sound exactly like my T!

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 1:54pm

Victory!

Prolific!

I like your writing style - you just

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 2:16pm

I read in one of your other posts that you use CBT...I am a huge supporter of that and have proven to myself that it's effective.

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 4:17pm

Hi Melinda,

Good stuff thanks for sharing. Looks like you are on the right track of taking responsibility and figuring out what lead you down the A path. I have to check out that website you posted.

Hey Michelle,

Good to see you on and still going postal. All good and I’ll have to check out the link you also posted.

Hey Ms. Vic,

Also good to see you on and sharing your inspirational journey. Saw your post last week but didn’t have time to respond. So I'll take this opportunity to say that you posting as a vet and showing how to work through struggles deserves super kudos! Being a vet means we have overcome some things but it does not mean we have arrived. We are still learning and growing too!

Much love all around,

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 5:29pm

Which post?

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 5:32pm

Going "POST" AL !! hahhahahahahha HAHHAHAHAHAHHA. I love it!!!!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 5:58pm

SUCH SIMILARITY to my story! (as a growing up girl) albeit it was my Mother's messages I interntalized; which shaped my thinking world.

Which CBT as you know...teaches us is "UNDERSTANDABLE" for us to have developed the thinking habits we do...considering our upbringing. And sure! It's NOT to blame. I struggled for years with the disconnect between KNOWING I was affected by my growing up - but being a very responsible person (I was the scapegoat) I didnt want to "blame" my parents. CBT was my CONNECTOR.

I remember my first day of therapy - when my Dr. Bob - said, "where do feelings come from?" and I retardedly said..."uhm...Your gut?" Doi. (he probably heard the ca$h registers jingle when I said it) :) To which he replied, "YOUR THOUGHTS" BOING!!!!!!!!!!!!

For a practical "DO-ER"

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010

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