Travelling behind enemy linest

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Travelling behind enemy linest
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 8:13pm
Okay, so he's not my enemy. Nevertheless, I am still travelling to xap's city this week. Don't worry. I won't be contacting him. That would make me an idiot who was just following his instructions.

Here's what I'm worried about. Chances are high I'll be on tv. I can hope he won't see that but I can't guarantee it. He can't email me. Blocked on all email channels. I'm staying at a different hotel than the one I usually stay at. Unfortunately, I can't block him from calling me because I deleted all his contact information in a fit of anger at our ending. I could look it up on his website but I'm afraid I'd get nosy about what he was up to and I don't want to tip myself into a weird place. I'm open to suggestions if anyone has any.

Pack your bags. I'm going to need everyone to come with me. Here's hoping you'll just have to sit by the pool.
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 9:07pm

If he finds out you are in town, he will realize you DIDN'T call or contact him.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 9:13pm
Love the boldness, RBM. Be very careful, Worthmore. You are moving along well on your journey. Weird places can appear when you least expect them. You are on your guard, you posted here. Being on TV, well, you can't avoid it if he sees you on there. But, you have your life to live, too. :) And you are living it well. But, as RBM said so boldly, don't put it past him to try and make contact, even if it means being rejected.
I could use a poolside vacation right about now. :)

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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 9:51pm
I put Clarity through the wringer having to go back to xAPs city a few times last summer/fall and I did.not.succumb! I would be an awesome.person to take with you. Pick me! Pick me!
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 10:20pm
I completely fell for that trap. In answer to your question of would he take the chance, I said, no, of course he wouldn't. I'm nothing to him. And then I read your response and I realized it's not about being nothing to him. It's about risk and a high. Well, he'll have to snort someone else. I'm just good, wholesome Metamucil now.

Thanks, RBM.
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 10:45pm
My plan is to hang up on him without a word if I accidentally pick up a call from him. I'm a little less sure how I'll deal with the situation if he shows up in person. For the first time I'm regretting not having been a little more expansive upon departure. I just said bye and then filled the moat. Oh, well. I'm not tempted. I just don't want to break NC if he shows up. Silence will be my first line of defence. If that doesn't work, I'll go to, "I'm busy." If that doesn't work, I'll tell him to just go away. Will any of that constitute breaking NC? I don't want to over think this but I want to be prepared. Being engaging is part of my job. I need to think this through so I don't make a mistake.
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 10:48pm
I am going to cling to your success, Rain. This can be done.
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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 10:51pm

((((groan))))


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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 11:08pm
Just three days. And I should be able to post the whole time I'm away. It'll be lovely and boring. Anticipate lots of "ordered room service again, mmm, $27 eggs, my favourite" or "can't decide which movie to watch Alvin and the Chipmunks or the Squeakwel". No strength required.