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in trouble at work .. help
| Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:16am |
im in trouble at work since i cannot concentrate and im way behind my tasks, i cant believe im going downhill in all aspects of my life, even at work, i work with OW, i have a hard time working and doing my job at work
i think the stress is taking a bad effect on me, i cant even function at work at all, even at home im a mess, i cant do what i been saying, im breaking apart literally
i dont know what to do, how will i get back my life, even work, i need a job, i cant find a job, OW ruin my life it seems, i know its all up to me but i cant do it right now, i dont know ho to deal with it anymore, i always have a constant headache hence i cant work or concetrate at work, im afraid im gonna lose my job because of this, im so messed up
help,
max

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Max-
Please do b/c your post do not sound any better than your original. I can't see any improvement in your postings.
I want to add....there have been many, many days when I did not have the drive to get out of bed or the house....but I forced myself. You have to force yourself. It's not about the "want", it's about the "I have to!" There is such desperation in your post, and it causes me to ache for you.
SS
Hi Again Max,
Try to keep the no contact, t this point you really do sound like you need a therapist to help you get through this. You are not alone, You have us to keep you in tune and help you through your grief. I am happy to hear you are going to go to see a therapist. It all boils down to you wanting to help yourself, You are heading in the right direction. Try to get out a little more than the norm, staying at home with nothing to do only prolongs your agony and pain.
Take Care....
Ladybug
Hi Max
Been following your posts. I think you have a plan. Now to put into action. Get to the therapist, wrok on the working out thing and the church thing. Try to stay away from her as much as possible. And I agree with Sunshine, force yourself to get out of bed and live!! It is really important. You will get better. Just keep telling yourself that. One of my biggest motivators has been that I know after all this pain and struggle I will be rid of it for once and for all!! Stay focused.
Good luck!
hi all,
i been trying to find a therapist all day and catching up on work, i want to go home now, its a mess, now my boss i think knew i had something with OW coz i heard him telling her that she needs to separate business with pleasure and never have any sort of relationship with someone at work
he has been giving me more work, not realy but it seems like a lot, i have a hard time managing my stress level at work, my shoulders are so tired from stress, its like im carrying a heavy load
i know i have a plan, my mind know what to do but how come i cant do it, im a rational person !, for some reason im not able to do what i need to do
i need to just go out of the house on the weekends, those are my hardest times
thanks all,
max
sunshine,
iam depress for sure, been reading about it and all my symptoms point to it, im looking to see a therapist soon, i just need to talk to a person, i have friends but i feel i cant realy talk to them about this, im in such pain and no one knows but me
i used to talk to OW a lot about anything so she became my support system in some way, my only support system i guess
im in my office now, i work in a lab(engr) and she came in and has to do some work with other collegues so i left and went to my office, i looked at her and she does not seem to be bothered at all, she is carrying on like nothing happened, i was just wondering it i realy meant anything to her ,.........
its such a bad week for me
max
thanks, u must be a lawyer :)
anyways, just found out the OW is out for a job interview, i feel a knot in my stomach, why do i feel this ?
its been the same for me everyday so far, i dont see any improvement, im going to see a therapist but there is no schedule yet, they have to call me back
the days are so tiring for me, i keep all my energy just not to think of OW, it makes me so tired at the end of the day yet when i go home i still cannot rest peacefully, she is always inside my head
she has been telling me that she will have to leave, she said she is doing it for me so i dont see her anymore and i can move on ... i realy have no more clue about her or what she is trying to tell me
people at work at starting to notice and my boss i think knows about me and OW also, he has not said anything to me but he told OW that she should not mix business with pleasure and not to have any sort of relationship in the workplace
i feel like my life is ruin, i dont blame OW but i blame myself for all of this, early on the affair she said that it wont work but me and her still kept on until she finally said its over
im just taking it one day at a time, im so used to being miserable now that it seems normal to me already ...
max
:(
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