Trying not to fall into that situation a

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Trying not to fall into that situation a
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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 11:34pm
Realizing that I had no control over the situation and couldn't bring myself to stay away, I finally told him that if he loves me as he claims that he does then he has to see what this was doing to me and that I needed him to let me go, regardless of what I told him I asked him to please be strong for the both of us and simply tell me no that he can't continue to put me through this. At first he told me that he wasn't sure he would be any more successful at doing that than I was, but because he loved me he would try to put aside how he feels and put a stop to all of this pain. Well, it has only been one day and I've already asked to see him, and since he was at work he knew that he couldn't turn me down as we work together, but he did stand his ground and told me that this was the only thing left as if we kept going in the direction that we were we'd wind up hating one another. There are moments that I regret asking him to do this, but I know it nneded to be done and I knew that I wasn't going to be able to do it. I'm going to need lots of support you guys, I'm counting on all of you.

Debbie

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 03-14-2004 - 12:05am
HI D


Support Support Support, you have to do what is good for you long term not what ONLY FEELS good in the moment.

If you don't have to see him at work don't, be kind to him and yourself.

He sounds like he wants to do right by you at this point let him do it or you will end up hateing him.

I AM STRONG repeat this 50 times looking in a mirror, the laugh will help if nothing else.

F