TU? Is it true?

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TU? Is it true?
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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 7:54am

Are you a Tweener as of today? I read in another thread that you may be. Let us know so I can send you your wings. You've been a consistent poster and have offered support to many, so you are well deserving of those wings.

Just so others know, being a Tweener/Super Tweener is more than just reaching the 3/6 month mark. It also signifies that you have stuck around and offered help and support to others, even through your time of pain and frustration. Just say'n....

((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:47am

Iddy - I'm so glad you called her out on

Babysteps


...even if it is all I can do, I can take one babystep.


NC/LC since May 21, 2010

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 11:49am

I'm waiting to hear from her that it's official before I

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-15-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:24pm

Hello!!!!

Yes - it is true, and guess where I am celebrating?!

Paris!

I am backpacking through here after attending a conference nearby. No better place to celebrate - I'd say!

I have so much to write - so many reflections. I can't believe that I made it - seriously folks, I can't believe it. Moved out of an office, quit a job, removed mutual friends. S&*T, but I got here and there is no looking back. Ya sure, I still take a daily glance backwards, but I now know that I am NOT going back. That's such a different feeling from the panic of the early days/weeks where you felt like if was all you could do to keep ahead of the A beast close on your heals chanting at you that you can't do it, that you're not strong enough, that you need the validation ... I cried on the train ride here today ... remembering how scared I was early on in the ending process - scared that my life would never get better, scared that I wasn't strong enough, that I couldn't put my life back together ... not anymore.

I now know where I am vulnerable and try as hard as I can to keep myself safe. I continue to see my counselor and stay very close to family and friends. I love my kids harder than I ever have. I have arrived in a good place. A place where I can see a the totality of my life - the amazing, the good, and that which needs work. I am excited to be healing. I am exciting to not be hiding.

I want all of you know that I know you held me up through those dark hours. Not once did you let me down. Your voices reassured me when my own was swallowed by sorrow. You got me though days of contact with him and helped me through that early, soul destroying hurt. You are life savers.

I have so much more growth to do - so much more reflecting and healing. I do not feel out of the woods yet - like any addiction, I know that I will have to stay vigilantly on guard to being triggered. I anticipate many dark moments ahead, but there is hope. And for 18 months I had lost hope. For those of you struggling you can do this.

Lots more to say (and I didn't proof this at all) but the Eifle tower awaits a visit from me!

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:28pm

WHOOP, WHOOP, WHOOP! it's been confirmed!!! TU is a Tweener!!!

She has been an amazing addition to the board and provided so many memorable and quotable moments. I am so thrilled to be the first to congratulate her officially!!! TU, you ROCK girl! Your confirmation post made me cry tears of pride and joy for you.

Enjoy Paris to its fullest and don't forget to send my presents!

xoxoxoxox
Dee

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:52pm

Welcome to Tweenerville TU, Paris style!!!!!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 4:27pm

Wow! You certainly know how to celebrate with style and class. Paris, of all places. Did you time it this way? ;-)


So, it's official then.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 02-02-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 6:05pm

I am so so happy today TU. You deserve this moment. Revel in it. Your presence on this board has been needed since the days of "Jodie" that I remember so well. You are another true testament to the strength of all of us in this struggle. I have enjoyed your well thought out posts so much over the past couple of months. Keep on trucking lady. You are an inspiration.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:48am

TU,


You are truly an amazing woman!

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 1:31pm

My EAS sisters,

Thank you for your endless support and encouragement. It is redundant at this point to say again how this board saved my life, but I will say it again: this board saved my life. And this board is made of the amazing, gracious, incredibly wise women (and men) that continue to trudge along this journey with the newbies - helping us earn those wings.

Now, I feel the honor of helping the newbies earn their wings too. I know that I have been there - fogged completely in, believing it would be different, that we were so smart & sophisticated caught up in a repressive world that just couldn't shake convention.

Screw that noise. We wanted what we wanted and nothing was too much to risk or f-

Every single day the impacts of my A still linger. My life is forever and ever altered by the choices I made - but like my quote suggests, it need not reduce me.

Learning to fly.

As we live, so we learn.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 11:00am

Bon Jour TU,


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.