Tunnel vision

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tunnel vision
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Sun, 01-17-2010 - 8:41am

He emailed me yesterday.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 9:35am


Edited 1/17/2010 9:37 am ET by jodi_09

Edited 1/17/2010 9:38 am ET by jodi_09




Edited 2/22/2010 9:43 pm ET by jodi_09
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Registered: 12-24-2008
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 11:14am

Hey getmylfeback72...I can so relate to your post...MM/AP is so much like yours.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 11:44am

gmlb,


Don't do anything - just let it be. Resolve to the fact,

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 1:13pm

Gabby


What are you going to do now?


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Registered: 12-11-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:12pm

Hey, GMLB~


You know where I stand on the nc thing... I sturggled with nc for THE LONGEST TIME and it's just not worth it. It's just not. If you are able to just walk away, you WILL get to the place I am about wishing you hadn't broken nc and wishing you hadn't left him in control, etc etc etc


Bandk~ Thank you for take on the

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:45pm

Hi, Clarity....I knew you'd be the first one I'd hear from... :)....not just venting...I come here so I'm not feeling so alone.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:58pm

GMLB,


Here's your reality check, GMLB. You are still in an affair and THIS is an ending your affair board, so the decision is really all in your hands.


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Who cares what he wants? What do you want? Are crumbs enough to sustain you or are you going change your diet to a healthier one? That means no more

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-16-2010
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 3:17pm

This first one in December I initiated after his needing to scale back conversation. The one that requires of me to not shine so brightly because his partner 'pales' in comparison, and the contrast is too much for him to handle. So less sex, less amazingness please. It was in that moment that i realized i won't apologize for being so amazing! Really


Wow jodi_09!

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 3:26pm

Hi GML,


<scale back the intensity" of this A. He said he loves me, still wants to remain in one anothers life on a limited basis till we figure out more direction in each others marriage.>>


I feel little like I’m channeling the Como section about what he says and what he really means:


What he is saying is that he wants to work on his M but in the event things don’t work out he hopes you will sit on the bench like a second string quarter back waiting to get in the game and oh yeah in the mean time you can work on your M too (how nice of him to suggest it—eye roll).


BTW a second string quarterback is not the best quarterback. He is only used if the primary quarterback is hurt, injured or cannot play. He is not the first choice. He’s just a back up.


Are you ok with being second string and a backup plan?


Also notice the contrasting words that I highlighted scale back compared to remain.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 3:36pm

Well, Gabby...there is an "On the Fence" folder on MAS where you can sit forever and make up justification after justification for why you can't/won't do whatever it takes to end this game of 'I just won't quit 'til I win'...win this alcoholic, abusive man.


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