Tweener?

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Registered: 10-23-2012
Tweener?
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Fri, 11-16-2012 - 2:44pm

Still trying to learn the lingo. What is a tweener?

Having a frustrating few days. Can't get xAP out of my head. Like he is always there. Like I am always looking for him. Boy I hate this!!! I am determined to get where some of the rest of you are! Sooner rather than later would be so nice.    --True

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Registered: 11-04-2012
In reply to: TrueSurvivor
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 4:10pm

Let me see if I can get this right...and if I overlook something...others can chime in and point it out.

Tweener:  You are considered a Tweener when you have reached 3 months of NC and so are affair free.  You receive Tweener wings.

Super Tweener:  Once you have reached 6 months of NC, you are considered a Super Tweener!  You receive Super Tweener wings.

Veteran:  One year out...one year NC...one year affair free.  Whaddaya want a medal?You will receive a medal.

This all started way back when, and I think it's nice.  Each one of these milestones is quite an achievement and worthy of recognition.  I think it's nice to receive recognition for a job well done, and it shows and reinforces to those just starting their journey that it can be done.

Not everyone is into it, but if you would like to be, let me know your NC date.  I will note it in my trusty (okay okay not always so trusty) index file.

Now, even if you give me your NC date, and for some reason, I overlook it...please please please make your own announcement.

Now, NC means:

No contact via email, texting, phone, FB, twittering, tweeting, cyberstalking or passing notes in school Laughing.  No reading either...delete delete delete

Limited contact due to the work situation gets a little tricky.  If you keep it professional and business like all times, with no personal chatting...then you are on your way.

Limited contact due to a social circle, but you remain aloof, engage in no chatting and are still feverishly working towards disengaging...then you are also on your way.

If you are blinded side by an unexpected pop up/in of your xaffair partner, but turn and walk away or at least tell them to 'shoo'...you are still on your way.

This works on the honor system.

I think it is best if you PM me with your NC date.

(((group hug)))

Clarity

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Ending an Affair Support Board

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Registered: 12-19-2011
In reply to: TrueSurvivor
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 5:22pm

wait wait wait - i have Googled the guy since August, come on - that is not contact, right? Smile...right??Innocent

Survivor...you will get there. Stay with us. Wow I can hardly believe I am here saying this because I was in a very dark place 18 months ago...time for me was the healer. Lots of time and ZERO CONTACT :)

So I have not always been a Pink fan, most of her songs really irritate me ;) but lately I am in love with her song Try and the lyrics really resonate with me and my feelings about my A (sorry it pasted with all the spaces):

Ever wonder about what he's doing

How it all turned to lies

Sometimes I think that it's better to never ask why

Where there is desire There is gonna be a flame

Where there is a flame Someone's bound to get burned

But just because it burns Doesn't mean you're gonna die

You've gotta get up and try try try

The rest of the lyrics as well but I will not paste them all here.

Take a listen...for me, it is uplifting and a reminder that I/you/we will ALL BE okay:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yTCDVfMz15M

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Registered: 10-23-2012
Sat, 11-17-2012 - 9:37am

I love that new Pink song too, it speaks to me as well Smile