Tweeners & Vets...do you ever get tired?
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| Mon, 04-26-2010 - 5:16pm |
Day after day I come here (often in silence) to lurk and learn...to gain wisdom and strength. I am thoroughly amazed at the constant posts given by you ladies who have been here for the long haul...or at least much longer than me (day 56). The posts are always with the same advice, but put in such a way that you would think you knew each of us personally and are made for us uniquely. It is amazing... Iddy, EI, Jane, GMLB...so many more...that speak to each of us newbies like we are children being guided every step of the way. I often wonder if you get tired... of saying the same thing over and over? I feel like a child sometimes when I come and want to post about my weaknesses today or how I am overwhelmed with sadness or how I can't seem to find the strength that I just received from a post. I stop myself from posting negatives sometimes because I think you will want to bang your head against a wall...or computer screen (and I don't want to be held accountable for breaking it.. :)!
No real point to this post except to say thank you to all of you for your continued support of everyone on here... thank you for doing the same thing over and over again for all of us newbies who were scared to post but did anyway. Thank you for not getting so frustrated with us because our fog isn't quite lifted and thank you for remembering the raw pain you felt in your earlier days... this is what is appreciated more than anything.
Have a great day :)

((Healing))
I can't speak for others, but I come here every day because I have a true passion to be here. I really don't know what drew me in but the first time I ever received a response to something I said, I was immediately hooked. Perhaps it's because I have always been a "behind the scenes" person, so being anonymous suits me perfectly.
In my younger days I was once a musician, had put several grass root bands together that never went anywhere,
~Iddy~
Healing,
So glad that you posted, I was thinking of you this morning when I was on here and wondering how you were doing.
We are here to help guide one another. Sometimes the guiding is done in a gentle way and other times it seems more like a push. Either way, I have needed plenty. There was a time earlier this year where I stopped visiting this board because I thought I was handling the whole LC just fine on my own. Let me just say that NEVER AGIAIN. I will come here every day because it helps keep me on the right path.
Chiming in and sharing my expierence as well as reading posts from others will remind me that getting involved with XMM and having my A ripped me apart at the seems and left me an insecure mess. Coming here every day to this board has helped me see the pain that I caused myself and is enough to prevent me from ever putting XMM on that pedestal ever again.
I look at EAS as my protective shell and all of you on here as my support network. Iddy, E1, Dee, Jane and so many others here have been so very patient with me as well. I too have wondered if they say to themselves "Jeesh woman, weve been through this before!!" But no one here would ever say that, they are here to help put things in perspective for us because we cant do it ourselves, the fog gets in the way. Ive even been instructed to "go back and read some of your old posts to see how far you have come." I did and it amazed me.
The pain of ending an A unites us but the support and strength we get from each other has helped each of us move forward and regain what we thought we had lost.
Please know that you have been in my thoughts!!
HUGS
GMLB
Iddy,
That outline view blew my mind!!!! how many lurkers! holy cow!
Just think, if all the readership would post and be active... how wonderful that would be. You must be overwhelmed to be shepherding such a huge flock! I mean... HUGH! Kudos to you, Iddy. Big, fat Kudos.
I want to also give a shout out to the tweeners and vets! Tireless saints. ha. yah, no. Y'all get tired, I know that! And you sure ain't no saints. HA!!! But still, you show up and kick butt. How much can we thank you for that? Not nearly enough. And let's hear it for the gosh-darn newbies??! omfg. I have to say that I'm blown away by the insight, talent, and compassion of a few of those new newbies lately. Especially XXXX (fill in the name of your fav newbie HERE). She is amazing!!!!!
The tenderness and love that is shared here gives me hope, not just for us, but for the world in general. Here we are, with no hope of any personal gain, no hope of personal recognition or reward other than the satisfaction of helping another person, and the hope that our vulnerability and openness will be received with grace -- and, yet, we're HERE... SOULS BARED. I love this site and I LOVE the ladies on it.
Happy, happy Dee day.
Hi HI2010,
I am adding my gratitude to the pile!!!
Without you all, there would be NO WAY.
I find each of 'you' invaluable to my journey - from the very new to the vets - it is warming and comforting to be able to look back from where you have come from, while at the same time having a sense of where you are traveling toward.
thank you to all,
TU.
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Hi Healing-
How kind of you to acknowledge me among those who have saved my life. I come here and post because this board saved my life- and that is not an understatement. Tomorrow I reach day 90 and become a tweener and there is no way that I could have done that without the support and tough love and reality of this board. Absolutely no way. So I continue to post about my struggles, about my victories and advice to others to pay it forward. If I can help just one of you reach tweenerville and beyond, it will have been worth it. And by giving you support, it also reaffirms why I had to end it for myself.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Hey Healing,
I'll let you in on a little secret.
I don’t get tired of seeing people climb out of the toxic cesspool; hose of the stench; gain back their dignity and self-respect; learn more about themselves and grow; and rebuild/restore relationships in their lives.
I would imagine as a teacher you repeat things each year but then you get to see the reward of the students “getting it” and succeeding. It’s hard to get tired of all the positive outcomes.
On the other hand, as Dee pointed out we are far from saints (I know my halo is crooked)…I’m human and admit I do get tired and frustrated sometimes. During those times, I remind myself it’s not my journey it is their journey and they own their oopsies and more importantly their victories.
Also, I have the help of ghost writers that do all the work on my posts. I went down to Fox Network and got some of those little ten year old brainy-acts that make me feel like a moron each week and employed them to write my posts.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! E1, I truly laughed out loud at your post! THANK YOU. I so needed that right at this moment. The 5th graders are doing an amazing job, I wish my High School students wrote that well!
Thanks to all of you who responded...much appreciated!