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U can love S & cheat
| Thu, 01-13-2005 - 11:54am |
I read in another post where a woman does not have any understanding as to how her H could still love her and cheat on her. I know it's awful, but I swear it is possible. I truly belive that everyone's value system is a little different and I don't think that anyone is invulnerable to an A. I used to condemn such a thing, and then, when my emotions and desires got completely out of control, I found myself totally wrapped up in someone besides my H. Funny thing, if my H ever did this to me, I still wouldn't leave him. I'd have to acknowledge that there was something amiss--a reason he felt a desire or need to stray and I'd want to remedy it. On the other hand, I've been granted a second chance in my infidelity, but there won't be another. Now, I know what the cost is and that he is completely intolerant of such a thing and any urges I have I damn well better supress. Do you think any of us will do this again? Is it true, "once a cheater, always a cheater?"

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Unfortuantley, I must agree with Shel & you on this one. I didn't feel guilty while in the midst of the A. I was "in love". xOM & I were "meant to be". Our relationship was "karma" & "fate". xOM (though he was single) felt more guilty than I did. How sad is that???
Though H didn't catch me, he did find an email the xOM had sent me and started asking questions. We had a huge arguement about it and he made me send xOM an email telling him to never contact me again.
I suppose I should have run as far away from xOM at that point as possible...but I didn't.
I guess hindsight is 20/20 ;-(
Diva
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