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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 11:53am

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 3:39pm

Alice,


It could continue to be a never-ending story unless we write that final chapter ourselves, with the ending we choose. Choose NOT to let this JAM unravel you. Consider the source, honey. Getting upset over this "nothing but a wuss man" is such a waste of time, although a work invasion is lower than low. Nothing like still trying to sneak in the back door....


The gals were right there for you which is more than I can say for myself...sorry, another busy day at work, but here I am now hoping that you will not let JAM's worthless drivel bother you for one more wasteful minute. Anymore work emails from JAM need to be deleted immediately.


NC also = No more

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 07-16-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:12pm

Alice


Boy, he has a serious set of whaleb@lls! I hope you're taking pride in the fact that you

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 10:02pm

Oh Alice isn't it your xap's email is heart-melting?

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 8:36am
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 9:00am

Alice -

I tried doing the same thing - just disappear and it didn't work. Some MM have thick skulls and need to hear those exact words. Even then, it might take a long time to sink in. He won't understand NC - he'll keep trying. It's up to you to keep it up.

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Even then, he might not let go. It's been 3 weeks, and my XAP is still driving by my house and work, so I completely understand. He parked right down the street from my office again yesterday. In my case, I take it as a creepy way of him letting me know that he's "watching" me.

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It's a game - if you took him back and it started all over, he'd want NC again. As we all agree, it's ego stroking he's looking for. Let him face is life on his own, that's what he needs to do.

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That was me too - good 'ole single Bodhi, always answering the phone, always making sure he was taken care of, never doing anything to betray the relationship he SAID he wanted. And he supposedly has a farce of a marriage too. Who knows - if he really does, then he can be miserable for the rest of his life, I'm not going down with the ship. And neither are you :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 9:06am

Alice,
With this much time of NC, even if you didn't explain NC to him... this much time of you NOT taking his calls or returning his emails, the dude should already 'get' that you don't want to hear from him and that you're over the A. But let's just assume he's got a self-centered ego that wont quit, and he's a complete moron who'll push the contact issue further by physically approaching you.... Do you really think an email from you saying 'NC' will really do any good with that type of idiot? I think you're better off staying completely disengaged with him and hoping that he gets bored with it and goes away. Emailing him in any way, shape, or form will serve only to let him know that he's getting to you - letting him know that you get his emails and such - which will stoke his stalking fire, believe me.

If you're really considering contacting him again, I suggest you examine your motives 1000 times over. Perhaps you are really enjoying the thought of sticking it to him with a f-off email, even if it is one worded very tersely with only "don't contact me"? If I were you, I know I'd be daydreaming about that! just being honest. The best way to get the f-off message across, though, is still (now and forever) NO CONTACT.

Keep your power, Alice. Don't respond.

Best,
Dee

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 11:05am
I hope you don't respond to the email in any way shape or form. That is breaking NC. It will fall on deaf ears as it is a response. There is the saying about how silence is dignified and heard. THAT will say volumes if you don't respond. So true. :)
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Registered: 05-18-2007
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 12:05pm

HI alice.


He will probably shrug it off and think "she doesn't really

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 7:55pm

Alice- I sure hope you didn't send the NC email. One more email is exactly that- one more email, breaking NC. Don't give him the satisfaction of a response. Be the one to hold your head up high. Walk away with dignity.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/

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