Ugh!! Wish I could change my number

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Registered: 07-14-2004
Ugh!! Wish I could change my number
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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:15pm

I haven't posted in awhile, lurk from time to time though. Hope everyone is doing well.

Just wanted to see how those who helped me on this board how you guys are doing. Especially the people that remained M and H's didn't know about their A.

My A has been over for almost 6 months now. Thank goodness. My M is going wonderfully. We have been going to MC and it is the best thing to ever happen. I've learned alot about myself and my H. Just wish I would of saw the light to go to MC before I decided that my M was over. What a fool I was, but atleast it brought me to where I needed to be and that is working on my M once and for all. Not to run away from my problems.

Anyway, the only problem I have now with my xMM is that he tries to call me on my cell every once in awhile. Late in the night, probablly after he has had a few to drink. I never answer and will never answer his calls. I also never call back. I just delete his number and go on about my business. Sometimes it brings back a ton of guilt about the A. But I rightfully deserve to live with that pain. I do agree NC is the best thing and it is the right thing to do. I just wish I could somehow block him from calling. I guess the only thing I could do is change my number.

Also, why do you think he calls? I think he does it to try to somehow suck me back in and I refuse to do that. I was wondering if anyone had experience with the xMM trying to sneak back in.

Anyway, just wanted to check in.

Luv

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:21pm
You should definitely switch to a new number. If you have to tell your husband you are doing so- tell him youre getting a lot of weird calls for someone with a similar number or something, but just change it so the ex cannot reach you at all. In the past my EXMM has snuck back in to my life a few times. This time, if and when he tries, it won't work. However, I think he realizes it's past the point of no return now- and maybe he won't try.
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Registered: 07-14-2004
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:48pm

I really considered changing my number. I just didn't know what to tell my H about why I would change it. But your suggestion is a good one - Thanks.

I really do not want to talk to xMM. It would not bother me a bit if I ever talked to him again. Unfortunately, he knows people that are close to me and I know that eventually I will be where he is or my H will be where he is. I will hate when that day comes around. I've been avoiding it so far, but one day I will not be able to. I think there is a gathering in a couple of weeks, I won't be there, but my H, a couple of people I know and xmm will be there. UGH... The good thing is that it's only a handful times in one year that my H or myself might run into xmm.

Oh well....

Luv




Edited 5/18/2005 1:50 pm ET ET by luv4me2004
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 4:07pm
I really had to change my number because I kept getting calls for the person who had the # before me - who knew they reassigned some numbers within weeks? Mostly girls who wouldn't believe I wasn't some guys new girlfriend and answering his phone for him. One got especially nasty and I insisted on changing the number. Could be plenty of reasons to get a different number - even some prankster writing any old number down all over the place.


A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS