UGH.2 wks no contact and he called..

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Registered: 11-14-2004
UGH.2 wks no contact and he called..
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 3:49pm

I should of seen it coming emails started and then the phone call! Ignored the emails however they did make me miss him! But today he called first time I missed the call the 2nd time I picked up!! Phone call went rather well we updated each other on how things were going and his life and wife is still the pits...no surprise there. I told him that this man I met in my life is amazing he does everything exactly like he did except for he has no attachments or problems. He asked if I was happy and I said yes I was very happy. I said I have times I really miss him and it hurts. I feel I have lost my soul mate but fortunately for me I have been blessed twice and this time with a man that is 100 percent FREE!! I told him how great it is to feel loved and that I know that he would never leave his wife for me because I am at a point of being totally in love with this new guy but that one day i pray he finds happiness!! He said he is envious of me because I have love and happiness and he is still stuck. I told him he deserves happiness and that I realized that I was in a really bad marriage and he helped me see that and get out and gain strength. But I also realized that not only he but this new man in my life both same the exact nice things about me....so it's not so much the guy it's me....it's my outlook on life and personality it's just my stbx was to stupid to see what I was or love me!!

We didn't talk long, he sounded really down but said he was happy for me, I was honest with him and said I am in love with this other guy now but I will never forget him and he holds a special place in my heart. But truly the OMM missed the boat. I left my husband and started a new and was willing to do it with him but he wasn't strong enough to do the same. And he never thought someone would come into my life that would compare but I have been blessed and found that one! I am not sure if he will call again, I know I am done with the meeting and started to enjoy the peace and safety of life without worrying about the contact and all that goes with it!! And I am not about to blow my new life with this other man in my life for a man that doesn't know what the heck he is truly doing. Funny, wonder how it feels to have the shoe on the other foot now huh???!!!! Ok just had to vent. thanks for listening!

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 7:36pm

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It was a real joy to read this post, the best of luck to you and your new guy.

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Registered: 11-14-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 4:42pm

I am glad you enjoyed the post!!! I tell you what I pray for everyone on this board to be as lucky as I was to find a man that is 100 percent there for you!! It's amazing LOVE like this that is honest, free, no boundaries is worth waiting for!! Day by day I get closer to thinking what the heck was I thinking???? How stupid could I be?? But it takes a lot of strenght and a lot of loving yourself too...you need to realize it's YOU that makes the difference in how you are treated!! It's YOUR ways!!

Ladies be strong...you all deserve the BEST!! Believe me...it's hard but it's sooooo good when it's true!! Funny thing is how crappy he feels now too the OMM knowing I moved on!! HA HA payback!!