Uh-Oh What do I do now PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Uh-Oh What do I do now PLEASE HELP
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Tue, 07-27-2004 - 11:36am
Now I have run into a little problem. My friend (I met the MM through her, they do business together) and I always go shopping together at the nearest mall which is about an hour away, so we don't go too often, maybe once or twice a month. The problem is, is that since it's kinda of a drive we usually take care of other business while we are in that city that needs to be done. And the MM works where my friend has to go to take care of some business. She is the only person I can go with and my hubby won't get mad. And she is the only one that can take me shopping because noone else wants to drive that far. Anyway, everytime we go shopping we stop at the MM place of work, that's how we met, and after that's how we would get to see each other. But now that it's broken off I don't know what to do. Because my friend wants to go one day this week, and I really need to go with her, I need to go shopping (for clothes, really bad), but after we shop we have to go to the MM's work, and we are usually there all day, so it's not like I can wait in the truck for her, I would have to get down and would have to see him. Should I go with her, since I do need to go, and try to handle the situation the best I can; or should I not go with her, which I won't be to go with her for a LONG TIME and do with out the stuff I need and can't get any errands that I need done, done. What to do ? STAY? or GO?

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:39pm


Big mistake, your friend does not have a clue about this.

If it is your plan to start this up again then go, if not don't, it is up to you.

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 5:03pm
I have to second what maybekatie has said. That is why I questioned the part about her being the only person you are allowed to go with, and it is also why I questioned H reading your e-mail. If your H is controlling, and you are truly unhappy in your marriage, it may be time to seek counseling or get out of the marriage altogether.

Also, by seeing MM, even for a short while, you are opening the door to starting the A again. We aren't trying to sound harsh, it's just that we have been there. We know what you are going through, and we are trying to stop you from making a huge mistake.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 6:57pm
I think you should set up a shopping trip with your husband. Tell him you need/would like his input on your purchases. I am male and do not enjoy shopping. However, I do take my wife shopping at shopping centers which are a few hours distance. We have lunch and/or dinner and perhaps get a hotel room. We get quality time together and this makes it more than worthwhile for me. Coming into contact with the OM in any fashion is definitely not a good idea.

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