Unavailable People

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Unavailable People
Sun, 05-29-2005 - 2:25pm

I came across this great quote on a co-dependency website the other day:

"The reason we get involved with unavailable people is that WE are unavailable."

Sure makes you stop and think, doesn't it?

This ties in with the lengthy post in another section below by FREE on Co-dependent and Addictive Relationships. Every choice we make in a partner and how we relate to him/her during the relationship tells a deeper story about our own (broken) selves, our inner children -- how fragile we all are as human beings. These patterns, of which we are often not even conscious, are very deeply engrained within our own psyches and very difficult to change. Most of the time, it takes an intensely painful experience such as an EMA to act as the catalyst for us to seek therapy where we discover these destructive patterns. Once we become aware of the reasons behind them, we are finally able to start the process of addressing the needs and healing of our inner children and adopt healthy attitudes and make better choices. So, if any good can possibly come from being in an A, it is that it often acts as the catalyst which can bring about self-discovery and change.