Unbelievable!!!

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Unbelievable!!!
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Tue, 04-26-2005 - 7:16pm

Well my best friend/boss went to lunch with XMM's W yesterday. $hit hit the fan and she knows pretty much the whole truth. When I got home from work I get a call from XMM. All he said (in a very monotone voice) was, "You never meant anything to me, my family means everything to me." And in the backround I heard her say "tell her YOUR WIFE means everything to you". So of course he did. I can't believe that she is going to accept that as sincere. (Or believes that I do.)

Well today I got home from work and I had an e-mail from her. It pretty much says that he was having a midlife crisis and was very weak and found me an easy target. Also said that he told me he loved me because he thought it was something he had to say. (Maybe true, maybe not.) But he was always the 1st one to say it.

This morning I was leaving my house and I saw him pass by. The @ss-hole had the nerve to flash me the "i love you" sign, with his hand. (I guess he must have felt he "had" to.) I flashed him a different sign.

Man, it irritates me to no end that she thinks I'm solely responsible for all that happened. Why should he try to justify his actions to her when she does it for him. She is in serious denial. I'm finding it hard to ignore her e-mails! Please give me strength....

Pal

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Registered: 04-04-2005
In reply to: pal1214
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 8:54pm

Pal

"""I got home from work I get a call from XMM. All he said (in a very monotone voice) was, "You never meant anything to me, my family means everything to me." And in the backround I heard her say "tell her YOUR WIFE means everything to you"."""

Well there goes the last Ball, now she has a matching set eh ! What did you ever see in this wet rag ????

BLOCK HER E-MAILS and you will no have to put up with them or fight the urge to responed.

Don't get sucked back into this MESS, time to move on.

Free

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Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: pal1214
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:30pm

Free...

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I love you, girl!!! I'm not sure what it was but it sure wasn't the size of his jewels!!

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Registered: 04-04-2005
In reply to: pal1214
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 9:36pm

Pal

That would be Jewel as in single, you could say he now has NO portable wealth !!!

Free

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Registered: 03-13-2004
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 12:15am

Pal,

i think this is the sugn for u to let it go, now u know the color of his skin

i know u it is hard, we have spent time and effort on xMM, i dont know how to say it coz im also stuck in the same way somewhat, but he will come back again to try to reel u in but i think this is it

u got yourself to take of now

max

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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 6:40am

{{{{{{pal}}}}}}}}
I am so sorry you are having to see how weak this man is in this way. Very hurtful for you and his wife. He is sliding by in a sense.

Yup, ignore her emails as anything you say that counter what she thinks...she will not believe at this time. He will most likely cheat again...perhaps the second time she will get it...but hopefully you will get it this first time.

Stay STrong, as you know the truth.
Lizzie

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Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 7:58am
Thanks for all your replies.
Actually I'm not even hurt over it. It had been over for a couple months before all this started suddenly. If I wasn't over it before, I certainly am now. He repulses me.
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Registered: 04-24-2005
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:06am

Gosh I want to be *there* so badly. I'm happy for you - you seem satisfied and don't have the longing the rest of us are semi-stuck with. I actually think I'm going to make a list of all the bad traits he had - maybe that will help.

WIP

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Registered: 05-28-2004
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:25am

Wow, what a pathetic pair! The naive wife who really believes a forced phone call from her H to you would solve everything in their wrecked M, and that wet blanket (can you say "whipped?") that drives by your house and attempts to be cute with an "I love you" sign. I almost cried out laughing when I read you "flashed him a different sign" Way to go! Blocking that pitiful woman's e-mails would be best, change your address if you have to. Or put in something like an "out of office reply" lol - that should infuriate her.

In envy you, you're way stronger than me, I want to be at the stage when MM "repulses" me. You're an inspiration. Hang in there!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 12:47pm
UGG!! What a ridiculous couple they are! I'm sorry but you are better off moving on and not having either of them in your life. She made him say things on the phone which is stupid and ridiculous!!! And in the end, sadly--to try and make that marriage work they probably are forming this team against YOU, as if YOU are the enemy. That's how it works in a lot of cases. I'd also block either one of them from emailing you. Don't give the satisfaction. Hugs to you--they deserve one another!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: pal1214
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:56pm

If you're having trouble ignoring the emails, perhaps you need to make sure your junk-mail blocker is working on your email server.


Or, to put it bluntly another way,


Why are you wasting your time reading emails from a betrayed spouse or xMM that you no longer care to have in your life?


That includes responding to hand signals....


It's O.V.E.R.


Move on and don't bite the bait.


Hang up the phone. Immediately. You DO NOT have to listen to xMM or his wife on the phone.


OR read emails.


I suggest you ask yourself why you are continuing to CHOOSE to engage.


Solve that question and let the rest of the stuff go.


Including the $$$ and @@@ in your posts.


You ARE an intelligent woman.


And your words in your posts need not contain masquerading vulgarities.....


The higher path you are choosing for yourself in leaving the affair behind you beckons with a serious re-thinking of life attitudes and communications.


Keep thinking................


cl-nre


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