update

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Registered: 03-13-2004
update
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Sun, 04-03-2005 - 11:07am

hi everyone,

i have been doing well lately, especially this week , i had 2 dates with 2 single women and enjoying it so far, meeting new friends and just getting out and eating out is already a big step for me , i have been emotionally and physically withdrawn since OW ended it all, .... u all know the drill

so here is my issue, i was on a date yesterday, i met a wonderful nice person, we hit it off right away, she was very open to me, had good conversation, she is also very honest, i would like to keep this person as a friend, i can tell that there is no physical attraction to her, we both agreed that if nothing happened then we can be friend at least

MY PROBLEM IS while i was having a good time with this person, i was still thinking of OW, i felt so bad that i was thinking of OW, i felt like i had lied to this person since i have not given her my full attention while i was with her

am i still addicted to OW or what ?

i hate it

max

ps, i wonder what happened to Rocket

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: maxell_2004
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 11:20am
Max,
The fact that you went out and 1/2 enjoyed yourself is a good sign.
Stick with it. Time WILL heal you and before you know it.....
From your posts, you'll always have a place in your heart for XOW but....
Don't feel like you owe anyone anything:) You're not lying, these were blind dates and they're what you need to get over the hump.
My advise...don't go into these dates expecting to meet Mrs.Right. Take baby steps with people. Don't open yourself up to making a decision to establish a relationship off the hop.
Go with aspirations of broadening your horizons and opening yourself up to feel whole again.
Don't let XOW take your spirit:)
Glad you had some fun:)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2004
In reply to: maxell_2004
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 12:03pm

hellsie,

i go out not expecting anything at all, im just happy to talk to another soul, have good food and conversation

it did bother me that i was thinking of OW while i was with my date

im just glad i am able to drag myself out of the house, there was a time that i refuse to even go out of the house let alone meet other people, OW has so much control over me or i allow her to have control of me ( the latter is true)

i have simple goals, just want to meet and make new friends

max
:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: maxell_2004
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 4:21pm

Max

Just keep doing what your doing there's no rush to get anywhere, sooner or later you will meet someone that blows XOM away.

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