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Tue, 09-07-2010 - 11:25am

Sorry - deleted. I'm usless.




Edited 9/7/2010 11:51 am ET by robspierre66
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Registered: 04-08-2009
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 11:59am

Hi robspierre,

I'm back after a long hiatus from the board, but I have been reading some of your story . . . and I can tell you this without a doubt, that coming here to tell "enders" that you just made out with your AP for 2 hours is . . . how shall I put this . . .

VERY, very difficult. For the enders. VERY difficult.

Dude, there is no "one last NC text" to send. To be here, you simply need to choose to be DONE, and really mean it.

It's called "block and walk." Have you heard people use that term here? You've tried to end it it sounds like, in other ways, but you keep getting sucked back into the A vortex.

Postpone the "ending" until after her son's operation?! Really? That's called manipulation. She's a junkie just like you, not wanting to lose her drug supply, so she's gonna throw every excuse not to end out there to you. Now's the time when you have to STOP the madness.

I hope I don't sound too harsh, cuz I don't mean to be . . . but I know for me, personally, this board has been a safe place to come and a place where I know there are people who are committed to ending their A, no matter what. I haven't been back for long, but last I looked, this isn't the place to fence sit.

Just be done. Block and walk. Seriously. Walk away, go NO CONTACT today, and join the rest of us who are on that journey.

But please respect the people here who are still raw with pain and hurt and don't share the details about romantic encounters with your AP. That's so hard for those trying desperately to clear the A fog.

I hope you're ready to block and walk,

-Juliette

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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 12:08pm

Really?? really? you have got to be fn kidding me.
I'm going only off of what poor Juliette had to read and recounted, but if this is accurate; you have GOT to be joking.

Dude. for reals. RESPECT THE BOARD.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 12:24pm

RP66,


Last time you posted you didn’t want to end it because she was on vacation. Now you don’t want to end it because of her son’s operation.


<<I got into my affair when I stopped going to meetings and sharing honestly. You are so right about isolation.
I went back last week and told the meeting that I had lied and cheated and that regardless of what the world said, I could not do that without risking everything. I told them about my affair. I have gone to a meeting every day. I am meeting a man tonight with a view to him bring my sponsor. I need to do the steps and keep doing them. I will tell him about the A. He needs to know.>>


Your words RP. You traded one addiction for another. This is not about your AP. Stop using her and her situation as an excuse!


Did you speak with the man

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 12:36pm

TO Rob and fellow readers,


I was able to read your/his post before it got deleted.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-21-2010
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 1:26pm
Yes, I apologise for the post. I tried to delete it immediately but it took me a while to figure it out. I won't post again. I will go back and delete previous ones now that I know how. Thank you for those who posted positive comments.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 2:21pm

Not sure if you have been posting over on MAS.


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Registered: 05-26-2010
In reply to: robspierre66
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 2:53pm

I'm so sorry you are hurting and are going throught his all over again and please don't say that you are a loser or whatever because you aren't. I caved several times before finally ending it and while it is hard for us that have gotten out and are doing our best to move on and stop thoughts of XAP we still care and are here for you (yes, spare us any details though, I didn't get to read your post before you deleted it) but I'm sorry you are back at this place.


We are all here for you and hope you choose sooner then later to end the insanity.


Hugs.