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| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 1:24am |
When we ending up alone during the taping ....I said to him " Just say it. I can take it I'm a big girl. Just say that you are going to stay with your wife. I need closure." He got so defensive and upset. He looked me in the eyes and said..." No, I won't say it because I do not know what I am going to do." I said " I love you, that does not change, but why can't you just say it?" He was mad. I told him this was torchure.
From my other posts I stated how is wife always wants me around them and is always wanting to be together. We share the love of horses and riding. I have backed way off from her and I know she knows and suspects. They had a party over the 4th of July and naturally I was invited. There were a lot of MM friends and we were all laughing, shooting fireworks and having a good time. Well MM's friend and his wife had obviously noticed the chemistry between MM and me and the flirting and preceeded to tell his wife. Well tonight he told me that she jumped him about this and said other people had said stuff about us. He said she pitched a fit. He told her we were very close friends and she knew that. He said he told her if she was so upset and did not like it why didn't she just leave. I think she backed off after that comment because she always threatens to leave and he always begs her to stay and now the tables were turned.
My point is....I begged him to just say the words " I'm staying with my wife." I told him I was a big girl and I could handle it and I needed closure. Why will he not say it? Why did he get defensive and say he was still thinking about it. We have not been calling each other for over a week since the ultimatum & I have not been going over to the house for dinner and visits like usual even though the wife has invited me. It has been a NC exept for the occational working together.
So what is everyone's take on this? Nothing has changed...the ultimatum is still the same. What do I do from here or say?
Thanks,
Carla

Good luck and keep us posted on how things are going.
PS - I highly recommend reading the post about "Lost in Limbo".
She has a guy friend she wants me to meet and she brought him last night to the church we were taping at and introduced him to me right in front of MM! It was priceless. We went into my editing room and talked, laughed etc. He was a nice guy and I would go out with him if he asked. About 10 min. later MM came into my editing room prancing around telling me what a wimp this guy was. I told him I thought he was nice. It was funny to watch MM squirm. He knows I will move on and that's what is killing him and why he won't say he is staying with his wife. I think it's funny to watch the pressure on him for a while.
carla