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| Thu, 06-17-2010 - 9:16pm |
I thought about not returning to this Board because I am so embarrassed and angry with myself, but I can see that I have the support I need right now and you all really understand what I am going through.

Dear Aloha,
You are amazing, and brave and so strong - how do I know that? Because you came back here. That is and of itself can be a huge hurdle. You posted when you failed yourself, and you came back to update us. You pushed the shame aside, and silly pride, to hear our concern and care. We welcome you here with open arms, and we believe in you.
I am so impressed with your resolve - in going back to LC, sticking with us, and trying to find a new job. I know how bad LC is ...
Please continue to post - never feel ashamed. Sometimes our words may sting, but they are always coming from a good place, a caring place.
((Hugs))
Tu.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Just a word of warning. By not showing your feelings or acting like it was no big deal, you are sending the wrong message. You are telling him that it's okay to mess around
~Iddy~
"Just a word of warning. By not showing your feelings or acting like it was no big deal, you are sending the wrong message. You are telling him that it's okay to mess around
I think by "not showing your true feelings" Iddy meant not showing him that you're upset about what happened and not acknowledging it as a slip up and a big mistake. Carrying on like nothing happened may give him a wrong idea that you were totally ok with it and he may try to repeat it in the future again.
Gone
Yes, GBG, you understood correctly what I meant. Acting nonchalant is telling her AP that she is not affected by these little office trysts, so he's going to try it again the next time the opportunity arises. She needs to set him straight that this HAS TO STOP.
Are you reading this, AG? By no means do you tell him you have developed feelings for him. What purpose would that serve other than fattening up his ego even more. You know how you feel and this is why you keep giving yourself to a man who is engaged to someone else. It's time to start disengaging your emotions,
~Iddy~