An update

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Registered: 09-30-2011
An update
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Wed, 02-06-2013 - 12:07am

 Hi everyone here is an update I literally ran from xap he saw me leaving for work and he was parking his car across the street and he saw me and yelled hey I need to ask you something I held my finger up and ran upstairs to my folks house. I ignored him that is for sure I hid up there for a few moments till he went back inside his apt. Then I fast walked to the bus and have been avoiding him. It was kinda scary his tone towards me. I am being strong just trying to keep on.

Peace Love Andie

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Registered: 11-04-2012
In reply to: andierizer
Wed, 02-06-2013 - 2:20pm

Yes please, no finger waving....no running either if you can avoid it.  Cool demeanor, keep you normal pace...if he approaches you, look right through him...like you don't even see him and keep 'walking'...total ignore, is what you are striving for...and I know you have been doing your best..but with this guy it has to be better.

He got a reaction from you...it's all he cares about, and it could be enough to spur him on.

I can't even begin to imagine, Andie, how hard all this is...really, I can't, but if you can become deaf and blind to him, all the better.

((hugs))

Clarity

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Registered: 05-08-2012
In reply to: andierizer
Wed, 02-06-2013 - 11:05am
You held up your finger to him and now I am wagging my finger at you.... Andi you do not see this man, you do not hear this man and you must definitely do not hold up your figure to him. I know it's hard, and I know you are trying your very best, keep doing your best..... Holding up your finger to him is communicating with him kwim? That is what he wants, he wants acknowledgment that he's getting to you, he's none too concerned how he gets that acknowledgement either. Don't mind his 'tone' listen hun your A has been over for I think you said 2 years? (i might have got that wrong), but my point is if he was going to do something terrible, he would have done it already. This guy isn't big and bad and dangerous (he likes to think it though), see him as he really is, a paresetic, loser who gets his kicks from intimidating women. Pathetic. Andi you are doing good, just swat your thpughts of him away like you would a fly and keep those fingers in your pocket  (((hugs))) Sunny Soon Xxx