Update:

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Registered: 04-09-2010
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Wed, 04-21-2010 - 1:07pm

I swore I never would write on these boards again but I feel a need to let all of you know who have been hurt by As that I talked to my husband about my feelings.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 1:57pm

YES YES YES YES!!!!!!
Thank you for letting us know - we worry a lot around here!
Best to you and your family!!!

Better days ahead!
Dee

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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 2:42pm

So glad you didn't jump off the cliff.....Welcome Back....

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 12-31-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 4:49pm

Sassy,


I'm so glad you approached your H about what you're feeling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 6:23pm

Tears rolling down my face - happy tears.

You did it! - you had the talk that many of us here couldn't/didn't/chose not to.

What courage you showed in doing so. I admire the leap of faith you took in yourself and your H.

You did not take the easy way out.

My best to you and your family.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 6:37pm

Oh Sassy- this is such great news. I too made the mistake that CSN did and turned away from my H. Instead of addressing the issues with him, I shut him out and turned to someone else. I regret it everyday. I wasted an entire year blaming him and building walls around my heart... and those walls are very painful to take back down. Congrats to you. I hope you move forward, rebuild your M and find true happiness.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 7:08pm

Sassy,


Oh what I would give to turn back the clock and return to where you are now! RUN to your H and don't ever think that you can solve your marital problems by turning to someone else!! I'm so glad this board has prevented you from making the

~Stargirl~
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Registered: 03-17-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 9:18pm

Sassy,


YOU ARE VERY WISE

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Registered: 03-29-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Wed, 04-21-2010 - 9:46pm

sassy,
you, young lady, are one of the smartest, most thoughtful, insightful and circumspect people i have had the good fortune to run across on this board. most of us ended up here because we didn't look before we leapt. i certainly did not do my homework, i did not think to ask women who had already been down the road of wreckage that i was about to embark on. not only did you ask, but you took to heart the replies of all who cried out to you and told you how they wish they could be in your shoes again with the decisions stretched out before them. watch out--you could become a hero around these parts! in all seriousness, i admire your discernment and ability to take what everyone here said and see that it is not what you want for your life. i wish you every success.

lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: sassyea
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 12:42am

Sassey!


I’m overjoyed to read your posts!


Your decision shows great strength and courage.


You’ve made the right decision for you and your M.


I wish you the best! Prayers really are answered! Know that each response to you was in love.


Thank you for posting. It means more to us then you could know!


Much love and big, big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 8:51am
sassyea, I am so proud of you. I am so glad that you did not enter into an A. I had an A and believe me, you may get a moment of thrills but the pain and the breakdown of your self esteem, constant obsessing is not worth those few minutes of please. You don't deserve to be anyone's dirty little secret. Continue to talk to your H and make him listen. You can rebuild your M before it is too late. I wish I had come to this board before I started my A because my A almost destroyed me. There is nothing glamorous and romantic about being a man's secret.