update on divorce

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Registered: 10-02-2003
update on divorce
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 3:22pm
Okay to answer all of your questions. I went to see my attorney this morning. He said that we filed the divorce papers correctly, but the judge wanted me to say something negative against my husband. My husband was with me and he agreed to everything that I wanted. He did not say anything to hold up the divorce. He actually was trying to help it along. I just told the judge that we could not get along and we fought all of the time. The judge said that this was not good enough and that he could not grant the divorce. My attorney suggests that my husband refile stating mental cruelty instead of adultery. I am okay with that and I will agree to it. So, we are working on the paperwork now to get it refiled. I'll admit. I was shocked when the judge refused the divorce. My husband and I are working together on this and we intend to get it done right this time. At least we are not fighting about it. We were both so shocked, that we didn't have time to argue. So I am probably looking at another 30 plus days before it is over. That is just the way that it happened. I am glad now that I didn't say anything to ex-OM. I won't say anything to him until I have signed papers in my hand!